(Closed) Photographer for DW trying to get me to pay for family?

posted 5 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

I would tell her you cannot accommodate her request and leave it at that. You are being gracious to let them attend your wedding and pay for their food, but it is her choice to have them accompany her and she should be fitting the bill for that. Unfortunately, you should probably just give her the option of paying their accommodations/airfare or allowing her to bow out and finding a new photographer.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@YogaFaerie:  That is absolutely ridiculous that your photographer would even run that past you. I don’t think it’s appropriate behavior and why one earth would she have agreed to be your wedding photographer knowing your wedding is a Destination Wedding and that she would have to fly. I am glad you didn’t dignify that with an answer. Honestly paying for her to get there is one thing but family is going past that line of being appropriate. Bad business practice. I would find another photographer stat!

Post # 5
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593 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

No!! you are absolutely not responsbile for paying for her hubby and daughter to fly Sounds like she just wants to get a free family vacation out of the deal. I would tell her you are only paying for her travel since you have hired her and not the family but they are welcome to attend the wedding. 

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Thats ridiculous that she even suggested that!! Why would you want to pay like 4k for a photographer? She is nuts! I would just get a photographer in Scotland and save the hassle and the money!

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

You are not being unreasonable. 

 

And more importantly, I’m getting marriedd in Scotland too!!!!!!!!! 10 days after you 🙂 

We are using this guy 

http://www.neilthomasdouglas.com/ for photography 

Haven’t worked with him yet but he’s been super great about emailing and helping with recommendations for hair people and whatnot 


Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Wait, did she actually suggest that you pay? Or do you think she’s just looking to see if you are ok with them coming? You 100% absolutely should not pay and yeah that’s a completely unreasonable request. But if you aren’t sure if she’s just asking permission, you should just respond and say you don’t have an issue with them being guests but you can’t pay for that.

 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@YogaFaerie:  That sounds… not professional at all! May I ask what you are paying her for her photography? & has she done weddings before?

Just because she is great at modeling & boudior photography does NOT mean she will be a good wedding photographer. Weddings are a whole different animal! A client I just met is doing a vow renewal to get good photos a few months after their wedding. Why? Because their friend photographer who “takes great pictures” is avoiding them since around October because none of the photos turned out & they didn’t have a contract. They got married in a beautiful place & not a photo to show for it.

Do NOT go with any photographer who does not give you a contract. It is there to protect you both!

ETA: Re-read your post & maybe she was just asking if you’re okay with them coming to the wedding? She may not have been asking for you to pay for them… it could be a misunderstanding. However I’m not sure why she’d even bring it up. If I was doing a Destination Wedding & doing a family vacation, I’d have my  family stay in the hotel (or explore around away from the wedding venue).

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@YogaFaerie:  Oh well then yeah no. HOW RUDE!!! Sounds like a way to get a cool vacation for free to me!

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Actually, if you had a contract she wouldn’t be able to pull this on you.

I’d cut ties and move on to another photog.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I am a wedding photographer and she is being completely unreasonable. I think she’s taking advantage. If she knows she is scared of flying she should not have taken a Destination Wedding OR she should have realised that one of her costs will be flying her husband along. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@YogaFaerie:  Honestly, for $5k you could get a true professional. Like, magazine quality work (or close to it). Idk your photographer’s quality, she could be great at it. However for that price, I’d go with someone who does weddings for a living. Anyone who agrees to do a wedding & does not have a contract is NOT a professional & is not someone you want to hire. Especially for a Destination Wedding wedding! You want someone who knows about flying, such as protecting their equipment from the airplane xrays (they can wipe out the camera memory cards if not protected). If you want to PM me her website I’d love to review it (just don’t publicly post it or it may lead her to this thread).

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@YogaFaerie:  The photographer is being unreasonable.  You should only be expected to pay for your vendor not her family that decides to tag along.  It’s unprofessional to expect you to foot the bill for her family members to fly with her.

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