(Closed) Photographer has dress code in her contract for bride and bridal party?

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Post # 48
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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paintitblackcat9:  errrrr what? Is this your photographer or your mom?

If this photographer has moral objections to risque clothing then, I would see if the two of you are compatible before you go forward with this. I know that I wouldn’t take kindly to my photographer trying to tell me anything about my wedding especially not how we are dressed. This would be a dealbreaker for me even if I wasn’t planning on breaking any of those rules.

My wedding, my way. Period.

Post # 49
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Bumble bee

Yeah I agree with your decision… keep looking! You don’t want to be taking photos and then your photographer tells you to change because you’re showing cleavage.

For having looked for photographers twice (the first one fell off the face of the earth two months before the wedding) – if you talk to a photographer and get a good vibe from them, but they’re too expensive or aren’t available on your day, don’t hesitate to ask for references! They’re usually very happy to recommend each other and they know who’s professional and good.

Post # 50
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I think I’ve heard everything now! Wow. 

What if one of your guests were to show up in something that she didn’t consider modest, would she refrain from taking their photo? Is she going to measure skirts? And what defines cleavage? Some modesty standards are anything below the collarbone. 

It’s fine if she has her own standards of modesty, it’s when you start enforcing that on other people!

Post # 51
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

WOW! thanks for the entertainment at work! I’m very turned off by both that wild dress code policy as well as the fact that she only has a facebook page. I would not want to worry about what my photographer thinks of my dress/bridesmaids dresses on my wedding day. Good thing you read the contract first!

Post # 52
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Historic Chapel

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paintitblackcat9:  This would be a major no no for me. Is my wedding day, no one can tell me how to dress! She also doesn’t sound very fun to work with.

Post # 53
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

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paintitblackcat9:  I think it’s the most bizzar thing to have in a contract. I’m a wedding photographer, and what my couples wear/do is none of my business. I’m guessing she’s a very conservative and religious photographer, and this clause is based on her own personal morals and views. Believe it or not, she’s not the only photographer who has those types of clauses in their contract. There is another very conservative photographer who goes so far as to only shoot equally religious couples, no strapless dresses, weddings can’t have “traditional” receptions with dancing, etc. It’s within every business owner’s right to shoot whatever events they feel comfortable at, but it’s super strange that they wouldn’t be actively marketing to those types of clients. 

I would bet she hasn’t had much resistance because most people don’t read their contract, they just sign it. I personally wouldn’t sign it, because I don’t believe in choosing vendors that inflict their own personal beliefs onto others. 

Post # 54
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception/The Gallery

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paintitblackcat9:  First of all, her policies are bizzare and sexist. Not cool. And not smart for her as a (seemingly) relatively new photographer. 

Secondly, and most importantly, as another KC bride, I can say, there are plenty of good wedding photographers in the area! I’ve met with a few and researched a TON. Send me a PM and I’d be happy to recommend a few to you. You can do so much better, KC has so much talent!

(I checked out her Facebook page, saw she was located in KC. Sorry if that was creepy. haha).

Post # 55
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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paintitblackcat9:  This is the strangest thing I’ve ever heard. How does she even get any clients?!

Post # 56
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Bumble bee

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CakeSniffer:  They’re breasts mamma.  And every woman has them!  LOL, you’re probably NOT referencing Carrie my favorite movie ROFL.

 

Post # 57
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Bumble bee

Umm…ew what a weirdo.  I’m glad you’re moving on.  The last wedding I went to was in KC and they’re pictures are great.  I can also pass along the photog as pp mentioned.

Post # 58
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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CakeSniffer:  “Dirty pillows” bahahahaha

Post # 59
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Yeah good choice OP. I mean, it’s her business she can do what she wants but she is definitely going to put a LOT of people off with that statement. It’s YOUR wedding day – so what if you want to show off your cleavage??? There are far more offensice things in the world than a pair of boobs!! 

Post # 60
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

That is so bizarre! My photographer (and all others I considered) did not have any rules like that.

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