Photographer regret

posted 1 week ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 2
9286 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I think if you want a photo shoot then just do another session but I wouldn’t waste my wedding day worrying about a bunch of staged photos.

Post # 3
1131 posts
Bumble bee

Are you talking about where you go away between the ceremony and reception and take photos alone? Aren’t those almost always somewhat posed? Out of interest do you have this photographer’s site or insta do we can have a look?

To be honest the super posed wedding shoots where the bride and groom are instructed how to pose almost never looked good. And I’ve seen many. Yes aesthetically they look good in terms of the colour, background and pose etc. but then you look at their faces – fake smiles, awkward frozen smile, or not smiling at all (especially true for the guys as they’re not as used to posing, they just look like they don’t want to be there, even if that’s not the case). They’re just… underwhelming. 

One friend even told me recently at our wedding reception, when I told her how my photographer got us to just talk to each other (and also to embrace each other, kiss each other the entire time we were out doing photos) and how he made us laugh so he caught that on camera instead of asking us to just look at the camera and pose. She said she loved that, and how she look back on her photos and it was mostly posed and fake and it’s not them.

I think if this photographer do beautiful real photos, I would stick with her, rather than try and find one that does posed photos. It’s a gift, being able to capture the moment and in a beautiful way. Anyone can do posed photos. And as you said, the photographer tells a story. You want them to capture everything that is happening on the day and that tells the story. Surely you want to look back and feel like it was you in the photos. 

If you really wanted a couple of really posed photos, I suggest you ask the photographer, hey I really wanted one like this (show her an example or two perhaps), do you mind we do just a couple of them?

Post # 5
119 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2019 - City, State

You did not have the wedding yet, so relax! Can you talk to the photographers and show they specific examples of what you want – usually they work to create a shot list to make sure they don’t miss anything or person that you really want to have. I would imagine as good business people they would want you to be a happy customer.

Post # 6
816 posts
Busy bee

I’m sure the photographer can do staged if you request it. That’s just not a very common niche anymore as it is the opposite of what most people want. But if that’s your style, I think they’ll be able to do it. A staged photographer doing candid is harder. But this is vice versa and sounds doable. It’ll just come down to whether then photographer is willing or not. Ask them, and if they refuse then you can think of another plan. 

Definitely make a Pinterest board with examples of what you’re wanting to show the photographer. 

Post # 8
967 posts
Busy bee

I am not a fan of the huge documentary-editorial style production for my own wedding. Way too ott. 

I am focusing more along the lines of you tastes, too. I want a series of pretty, loving formals, nothing cheesey. We are not doing any prep pics. A few ceremony, and formals after. Couple, and immediate family. We are not having a bridal party. No reception pics. (It’s just cocktail hour followed by dinner) We have a lovely outdoor venue so should be simple, our photog shoots there regularly . 

My photographer does fo beautiful portraits, and also asks us for the specifics by example , which she will recreate for us. 

You just need to find the right  photographer and their style, and be very clear about exactly what you want, with examples. You can share a pinterest board, too. 

Post # 9
816 posts
Busy bee

mikuru :  so personally, I LOVE their work! But it’s definitely not what you’re looking for. I think you’ll have an easier time getting them to do a staged shoot but… changing their editing style will be harder. Their pics lean warm (some seem pretty neutral too though) and if you’re wanting cool tone, they might not be willing. Again, it’s worth asking though before you panic! Some photographers are very flexible and willing to bend their style while others aren’t. You won’t know till you ask! 

Post # 11
1131 posts
Bumble bee

So I think some of the photos are clearly posed, where it’s just the bride and groom. They would’ve been asked to stand at a certain place and embrace each other or something, and she took photos. Similar for the engagement photos. I think it will be fine if you ask her to do poses that you specifically want. 

I do agree that the photos have a warm hue to it. I’m not a massive fan of that. Looks a bit over processed to me. Some of the angles, I don’t know, I’m just not feeling inspired by. But in terms of capturing the moment I think that’s pretty standard these days. 

I would suggest if you didn’t like the photography processing style of this photographer, to just have a look around and see what else is out there. 

Post # 12
1131 posts
Bumble bee

So for comparison purposes, this is my photographer:

He’s all about capturing the moments, but also does portraits. He has a clean editing style and the angles I feel are spot on. You’ll see there are different types of posed photos depending on the couples, he is mainly led by the couple as to how they want to pose (and will give tips / instructions if you look like you don’t know what to do). 

I must admit I almost had doubts after one particular album, there were some of those cheesy posed photos (eg the bride and groom kissing while the bridal parties look on, I hate those). But it was clear based on his other albums that was the style of the couple and what they wanted. 

The photographer should be able to somewhat adapt to your style as a couple. 

Processing style and angles which the photos are shot though are probably not things you can change. 

Post # 13
236 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2025 - City, State

So am I the only one who laughed out loud at the first sentence, then?  Not laughed because it was funny, laughed because it was so damn stupid.

If you don’t think the groom will be one of the two most important people at the wedding, please don’t marry him.  Poor guy.  What absurdity.

Post # 14
73 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2020 - North Carolina

 Do you think that you could make a list of the types of poses that you want shot and ask them if they are willing to do those? I don’t see why a photographer would be against any of that.

Post # 15
656 posts
Busy bee

A lot of the photos are staged, they just have a natural feel to them. They also look more instagram worthy than what you’re describing as wanting. Try to think about what realistically you’d post on your wall. We have two wedding photos in our house. None of the wedding party or family shots, just me and hubby. Each side of our family has a family shot on theit wall. The rest are let’s say a documentary of our day. We had more a document the emotion photographer and my husband who is very camera shy was relaxed the entire time. He told me after he was dreading our formal shots but actually really enjoyed them because they were so much fun. At the end of the day it’s your choice, make sure you’re happy with them otherwise you’re going to hate looking at the 2 maybe 3 photos that you’ll post in your house.

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