Post # 1
My fiance and I got our engagement pictures taken over the summer. We chose a photographer we though was both economical to our budget and took amazing photos. This is her first year as a full time photographer. We sought out the location we wanted for our e-pictures. We chose the spot Fiance proposed to me, and it happens to be the same spot we take a picture at every season… very significant. We also drove the photographer to a beach that at the time we closed to the public but we did a little sneaking around.
Fast forward to a few weeks ago… we have a friend that is getting married two weeks after us. She saw our engagement photos (with links to the photographers page) on facebook and commented on how great they were.
I am the photographers friend on FB and saw that she had posted this “friend” of ours e-pictures. THEY WERE AT THE SAME EXACT LOCATION AND EVEN POSED IN VERY SIMILAR WAYS!!!!
Who should I be upset at in this situation? The photographer for knowing that these are two brides, two weeks apart with weddings shooting at the same exact location? Or for the other bride/friend who commented on how lovely our photos were and did not see a problem with the same poses and location???
And where do we go from here???
Post # 3
I’d be much more upset at the friend. How was the photographer supposed to know you knew each other?
Post # 4
BOTH! Well.. did the photog know you were friends?
Either way it was shady of your friends.
Post # 5
Deep breaths, don’t worry about it. Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery there’s every chance that your friend thought “Oh hey, that’s an awesome photographer and an awesome location. I’d love photos there too!”. The photos maybe styled similar because that’s the photographer’s way of taking photos and styling their shots. If I were you I’d make a light-hearted fun comment about how your photo shoots are so similar and laugh it off. At the end of the day you both have gorgeous e-photos.
Post # 6
In my opinion there’s big differences between the two sets of pics – different couples. Most people don’t really notice the surroundings in pics just the people in them (unless there’s a super weird something in the backgroud – there’s always “that guy”). I understand that it’s fustrating, but I really doubt that anyone will really notice 🙂
Post # 7
The friend.. the photographer is just doing their job. And there are weddings every weekend.. you can’t work in the wedding business without shooting the same places multiple times. But it’s one of those things that you can’t really confront without being the creator of drama. It sucks but you have to try to ignore it and remember not to share any creative info with that friend in the future.. plus you did it 1st people notice that.
Post # 8
I don’t think it’s anything to be upset about. It’s a little weird of your friend to copy exactly what you did, but you might as well take it as a compliment! There’s really nothing you can do about it now anyways.
Post # 9
How was the photog supposed to know you knew each other? If you want to play the blame game, then play it with the friends, but it’s done now, so I would just move on from it. Consider it flattery that they thought your location was so cute they wanted the same place. It sucks, I get it, but it’s not like your e-pics are going to be in a frame right next to theres all the time, so I doubt anyone will even notice other than you and the other couple.
Post # 10
I honestly wouldn’t blame either. It’s a spot. Unless it was, say, your house or something, it seems like no big deal to me.
Post # 11
You should include an option for “neither” in your poll. I don’t see what the big deal is. I echo what previous posters said about taking it as a compliment and that even pics in the same location will look very different with two different couples. You have your pictures and she has hers. it’s not like people will be looking at them side by side and comparing.
Post # 12
I wouldnt be upset but I sure would not be telling this “friend” any of my future plans because she is clearly a copy-cat and feels no shame in blatantly doing the exact same e-pics as u. To me it just shows that she lacks originality and is trying to be like you. if the photog knew that you know this other bride then that wasnt very professional. i wouldnt be upset by this though.
Post # 13
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
I don’t think there’s any reason to be upset with your photographer. If your friend requested the location, how was the photographer to know that she’s someone you knew? Or even if she did know that you knew each other, why wouldn’t she respect the wishes of her paying customer?
I don’t think there’s really a reason to be upset with your friend, either. It’s a bit strange and lazy of her to do the same thing as you, but she obviously admires what you did and wants to emulate you. I’d be flattered.
Post # 14
Yeah, I’m sorry, but I don’t think you need to be mad at anyone 🙁 It’s not like she copied your wedding. They’re just the e-pics. And yes, the location has sentimental value to you, but I’m sure you don’t think that no one will ever, ever have pictures taken there, right?
I would just let it go, and be happy for your friends. Just because someone copies your photos doesn’t make it any less meaningful to the two of you.
Post # 15
Did your friend know that it was a special location for you?
Post # 16
I don’t think that there’s a reason to be mad at either, but that’s really just me.