(Closed) Photographer used same location for mutual friends e-shoot

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Who would you be more upset with???
    Photographer : (5 votes)
    16 %
    Friend : (27 votes)
    84 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’d be much more upset at the friend. How was the photographer supposed to know you knew each other?

    Post # 4
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    BOTH! Well.. did the photog know you were friends? 

    Either way it was shady of your friends.

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Deep breaths, don’t worry about it. Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery there’s every chance that your friend thought “Oh hey, that’s an awesome photographer and an awesome location. I’d love photos there too!”. The photos maybe styled similar because that’s the photographer’s way of taking photos and styling their shots. If I were you I’d make a light-hearted fun comment about how your photo shoots are so similar and laugh it off. At the end of the day you both have gorgeous e-photos.

    Post # 6
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    459 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    In my opinion there’s big differences between the two sets of pics – different couples.  Most people don’t really notice the surroundings in pics just the people in them (unless there’s a super weird something in the backgroud – there’s always “that guy”).  I understand that it’s fustrating, but I really doubt that anyone will really notice 🙂

    Post # 7
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    1518 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    The friend.. the photographer is just doing their job. And there are weddings every weekend.. you can’t work in the wedding business without shooting the same places multiple times. But it’s one of those things that you can’t really confront without being the creator of drama. It sucks but you have to try to ignore it and remember not to share any creative info with that friend in the future.. plus you did it 1st people notice that.

    Post # 8
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    151 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I don’t think it’s anything to be upset about.  It’s a little weird of your friend to copy exactly what you did, but you might as well take it as a compliment! There’s really nothing you can do about it now anyways.

    Post # 9
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    1667 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    How was the photog supposed to know you knew each other? If you want to play the blame game, then play it with the friends, but it’s done now, so I would just move on from it. Consider it flattery that they thought your location was so cute they wanted the same place. It sucks, I get it, but it’s not like your e-pics are going to be in a frame right next to theres all the time, so I doubt anyone will even notice other than you and the other couple.

    Post # 10
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I honestly wouldn’t blame either. It’s a spot. Unless it was, say, your house or something, it seems like no big deal to me. 

    Post # 11
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    5494 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    You should include an option for “neither” in your poll.  I don’t see what the big deal is.  I echo what previous posters said about taking it as a compliment and that even pics in the same location will look very different with two different couples.  You have your pictures and she has hers.  it’s not like people will be looking at them side by side and comparing.

    Post # 12
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    9029 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I wouldnt be upset but I sure would not be telling this “friend” any of my future plans because she is clearly a copy-cat and feels no shame in blatantly doing the exact same e-pics as u. To me it just shows that she lacks originality and is trying to be like you. if the photog knew that you know this other bride then that wasnt very professional. i wouldnt be upset by this though.

    Post # 13
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

    I don’t think there’s any reason to be upset with your photographer. If your friend requested the location, how was the photographer to know that she’s someone you knew? Or even if she did know that you knew each other, why wouldn’t she respect the wishes of her paying customer?

    I don’t think there’s really a reason to be upset with your friend, either. It’s a bit strange and lazy of her to do the same thing as you, but she obviously admires what you did and wants to emulate you. I’d be flattered.

    Post # 14
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    2015 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    Yeah, I’m sorry, but I don’t think you need to be mad at anyone 🙁 It’s not like she copied your wedding. They’re just the e-pics. And yes, the location has sentimental value to you, but I’m sure you don’t think that no one will ever, ever have pictures taken there, right?

    I would just let it go, and be happy for your friends. Just because someone copies your photos doesn’t make it any less meaningful to the two of you.

    Post # 15
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    241 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2009

    Did your friend know that it was a special location for you?

    Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I don’t think that there’s a reason to be mad at either, but that’s really just me.

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