Photographers behavior

posted 11 months ago in Reception
Post # 2
3593 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

toodles321 :  uhh…i think you just need to let this go. You’re really super nitpicking here. Move on. 

Post # 3
2917 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

What’s your goal by talking to her? Do you want an apology?

I’d just write a review, I don’t think she’s really going to give a shit if you weren’t happy with her behavior, the wedding is over, she’s got her money. I’d be annoyed too, so I get it, she sounds pushy.

If you’re OK with not getting an apology, and you just want to tell her off so you feel better, then just call her and tell her what you’ve told us here.

Post # 4
878 posts
Busy bee

I really think you’re overreacting. She raised her voice because she wanted to get a shot and your husband wasn’t paying attention and it was loud. The cake thing is a little weird but I’m not sure why you were so upset about it.

Post # 5
2208 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise

toodles321 :  I’m going to make a pitch for a change in perspective.

I hired a photographer without a ton of experience, but it seemed like she was evolving really nicely, so I rolled the dice. I liked her personally quite a lot, but ultimately she wasn’t a very good photographer. We had a fun day with her out taking our engagement photos, but after seeing the final result, we were very disappointed with the results. We ultimately decided to hire someone else to shoot the wedding. Good day, bad photos.

So, you’ve said you’re happy with your photos. You had some friction with her during the day of your wedding, but it’s in the past and you never have to see her again. What you DO see for ever after are the photos. Which you say you love. Bad day, good photos.

I think confronting her is pointless and counterproductive. On the day, if you had been able to take her aside and ask her to use a more polite tone with you, that would have been one thing. You could have withheld a tip to demonstrate your displeasure. You can still write a review detailing your experience. Bringing this to her personally is just seems out of place and potentially a bit vindictive.  You never have to see or talk to her again; what do you hope to get out of scolding her at this point?

Enjoy your photos. Write a review if you really think it’s that important. Otherwise, move on.

Post # 6
733 posts
Busy bee

I opened this thread expecting that your photographer got drunk, hit on your husband, missed your first dance and lost the memory card after the day.

Needless to say, I’m disappointed.

I get it. I thought my DJ was extremely unprofessional and wasn’t happy at the end of the day. I decided to let it go for my own health and so that I could focus on pleasant memories of the day.

If you really want to follow-up with her about it and think that would bring you some closure, go for it. I would approach it diplomatically and in a way that seems like you’re trying to help her moving forward. “We love our photos but I wanted to give you some feedback about your behavior so that you don’t encounter issues with future brides. At times it felt like you were yelling at us, which I was taken aback by. I also thought the ‘joke’ you arranged with my mom was inappropriate. Overall, though, we were very happy with the product and wish you all the best.”


Post # 7
243 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

Just let it go. My Photographer was an a-hole on my wedding day , openly complaining that I was behind schedule getting ready (even though he showed up an hour ahead of the time we had agreed upon!!!). He also was quite rude and took 4 months to get our pictures done. He also did not go table to table as I requested. HOWEVER, our pictures were beautiful and he was pretty low cost (around $1k). So for the money and dealing with his primadonna ways, it was well worth it.

Just leave reviews so future brides know what they may be in for

Post # 8
842 posts
Busy bee

Make like Elsa and let it go.

Post # 9
203 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

Yeah, it’s not worth it.  Let it go.  Come on the boards to vent, get it out, and move on.

If your photos were not good, then I may be more inclined to say something.  If she was a little bossy and directing people in a harsher tone than you’re used to, I wouldn’t take it personally.  







Post # 10
6107 posts
Bee Keeper

Yep, on the “let it go” side here. Photographers sometimes need to be “highly directive”. Perhaps that style doesnt work for you, and you took her direction as yelling. Maybe they thought a mother daughter cake photo would be cute, IDK. But really, letting those little things ruin your day is so so silly. 

That said, if you were uncomfortable, you should have spoken up in the moment. You say multiple times “i wanted to yell back blahblahblah but didnt”. There is no point addressing it NOW, because its been weeks and its unlikely to have an effect. If she was, in fact, yelling at you and it actually bothered you, telling her in the moment would have probably solved everything. Well, maybe not if you also yelled it back like you wanted lol. 

Post # 11
473 posts
Helper bee


Post # 12
3797 posts
Honey bee

You need to lighten up. And it sounds like you were unpleasant to your mother basically because she was gullible and didn’t say no to the photographer. 

Post # 13
1740 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

Let it go. Sounds like like an overreaction.


Post # 14
1740 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

Also… why wouldn’t you just feed your mom even if you thought it was odd?

Post # 15
159 posts
Blushing bee

As a photographer…One who has done weddings… LET IT GO.

It is as exhuasting to be the photographer as it is to be in the actual damn wedding. You have to chase people and have a TINY window of time to get the right shots. People aren’t listening and you have to raise your voice or run around frantically. At the end of the day would you rather have an assertive photographer or bad pictures?

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