Post # 1
So I have a photography delimma. There is a photographer that is excellent but she is very expensive but happens to be a family friend and my future MIL was able to negotiate a price. She was able to drop it to about half price with the MIL contributing about 1/3 but unfortunately the price that we are supposed to pay is still too much and we feel bad that she is paying that much towards it. We havent signed a contract or anything it was kind of like a verbal agreement.
We found this other photographer that we like just as much and we can afford them without any help. We would love to book them but we dont want to cause any riff between the families if we decide not to use the family friend.
Has anyone had this issue or any advice?
Post # 3
@excited1: I haven’t been in this situation, but I would go with the one that you can afford or that you feel most comfortable spending the money on. I would just say that while you LOVE her work, you will need to go with a photographer more in your budget and thank her for her time in getting back to you.
Post # 4
@excited1: Inasmuch as wedding planning is stressful and causes many a bride to lose her wits, you must remain sensible about things.
1) You don’t want to go over budget.
2) You don’t want your MIL to run the show simply because she has money.
3) Always remember that once you start accepting financial help in planning your wedding, you lose some control over the matter.
I recommend going for the affordable photographer, letting your MIL know that and hey, you never know- maybe her friend will knock the price off further to please MIL (and make some money!)
Post # 5
I would go with the photographer you can afford on your own. As others mentioned before me, you don’t want the MIL calling the shots because she contributed or hinting at the “huge favour” she provided later down the road. Also, I think it’s always nicer paying our own way.
I would inform the more expensive photographer by telling them the honest truth. You appreciate him/her lowering their rates; however, you have decided on a more budget friendly and skilled photographer that enables you to provide the full payment on your own. I think majority of people would understand.
Post # 6
To me, as a wedding photographer, I personally feel photography is the most important “extra”. That being said, a wedding is not worth going into debt for. If there is a photographer you love just as much but you can afford just tell the other photograhper that. Just email her and say
“Thank you so much for working with us on pricing. We love your work, but unfortunatly, even with the reduced rate it’s still more than we can comfortably spend. We really appriciate your willingness to help us try to get closer to a number we can work with. Thank you so much for your time.”
Post # 7
Go with the one you can afford and the above^ email is excellent. You’ll have no fun with photography if the price of it is stressing you out! You might grow to resent it and make it a bad experience. Go with the worry-free lower option. A professional will understand.
Post # 8
@starfish0116: +1. Perfect response.