(Closed) Photography disallowed?

posted 5 years ago in Photos/Videos
  • poll: Would a no photography rule offend you?
    Yes. I would be upset, but understand and follow the rules. : (71 votes)
    33 %
    Yes. I would be upset and still take pictures. : (71 votes)
    33 %
    No, I understand and look forward to a beautiful one of a kind book! : (71 votes)
    33 %
  • Post # 3
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    2669 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I voted that I would understand and follow the rules, but I have a feeling I’m going to be in the minority. The thing is you may hate those posed photos, but many people like taking them. Especially if they are in nice clothes, seeing friends/family not often seen, and because they want to make sure that they for sure get a photo of that [insert whatever]. 

    ETA: I know you said people can take their posed photos in the lobby and veranda. Maybe that will help? If people think it’s too much trouble, they may still take them inside the venue.

    Post # 4
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    3092 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I think it’s totally fine to have no pictures.  At least I wouldn’t be hot and bothered as a guest.  I often forget to take pics of our various adventures.

    What about sending a disc of pictures that can be uploaded to FB or a link to a picture site.   That would  be my preference as a guest…although I would imagine a lot of people would love the book. 

    Post # 6
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    3569 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Honestly I think you are being rude and condescending to your guest. Basically saying that you think their photos are crap which is your point of view. However everyone is not a “professional photographer”, however just because you deem them bad pictures doesn’t mean that they are.People should have the right to take their own personal pictures through the night.

    As a photographer I’m sure you know even with a group of photraphers they aren’t going to able to capture multiple photos of every single guest. A lot of group shots and probably shots of the dancing and probably of the tables. I personally like to enjoy myself and not take a ton of photos. But I love seeing people capturing or taking candid fun shots, or group shots of friends dressed up as a nice memory.

    I think having photo free ceremony or time just for the photographers is fine but to ban everyone from taking pictures of themselves, because it doesn’t live up to your standards I think is beyond controlling. I would be miffed. I think asking for a few hours or a an event that can be ruined by all the clicking and flashes like during speeches is one thing, but for the whole event it’s just rude to your guest.

    Post # 7
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    1850 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    @TwoCityBride:  +1. my dad is a photographer and so am i, but i tend to be tolerant of what amateurs want to do. i get it, but thats how most people save their memories.

    Post # 8
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    724 posts
    Busy bee

    There is absolutely no way in hell I would go up to someone’s photographer that *they* paid for at *their* wedding reception and ask him to waste time taking pics of me and my friends being silly.  I assume there will be people that know each other there and may not have seen each other in a long time and won’t for a long time after (which is the case at most large gatherings).  Even if you’re totally comfortable with it and beg your guests to ask your photographer to take personal photos of them, I severely doubt your guests will be comfortable asking him to do that.  This is your reception and he is there for you, if guests want photos of each other they should take them.  If they want photos of you with them they should take them, unless your photographer jumps in (and I also see logistical problems of running around to find your photographer every time Great Aunt Sue or Long Lost Cousin Benny wants a photo with you.  You’d be chasing him down all night, unless you want him at your heels like a puppy the entire time).  You can put up all the signs you want, but I’d expect most of your guests to completely ignore this rule.

    Post # 9
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    4659 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @Dizbee:  Pretty much this.

    I’d be really irritated if someone told me not to take pictures, honestly. I’d think they were being snotty/stuck up/control freak, wanting to have the ONLY photos of the event be professional ones. My pictures aren’t great or anything, but I like to take pictures and have them with no waiting, no restrictions, just the feeling I had in the moment to remember. Most people I know are the same way.

    HOWEVER, if I was invited to request photos by the pro, or to use a free DIY photobooth WITHOUT the restriction on taking my own, I’d be much, much more likely to take them up on that because I’d know that it’d end with better shots of me at the event, and it would automatically minimize any cell phone pictures and whatnot.

    Post # 10
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    179 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    @TwoCityBride:  +1

    As a guest I would be offended. I personally wouldn’t want a photo album of random 200 ppl I don’t know. So if one of your guest wants to take a group picture or a particular picture, they would have to search for a photograpgher in a sea of 200 ppl, how inconvenient is that. Whilst you may hate those amatuer photo on FB, some ppl like them and like to share. During my wedding I loved and appreciated that ppl took pictures with their phones and cameras and sent them to me. It held me over until I was able to get the pictures from my photographers. Also my family was able to share pictures with other family members who could not be there. If you don’t want your guest to take pictures during key moments, ie. 1st dance, cake cutting, etc, then maybe you could make an announement, but to not allow any pictures during a celebration would be rude to your guest. 

    Post # 11
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    3569 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @MarMBer:  You also raise a good point about not wanting a photo album of randoms no matter how nice it is.

    Sometime a guest you want a picture with a specific person or just a nice picture with your spouse. I think op needs to keep in mind in the grand scheme of things it not going to effect her if guest take a few photos of themselves and post it on Facebook. We aren’t all professionals but I think most people can figure out decent lightning or capture a really good shot.

    Post # 12
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    8453 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @BlackOrchid:  I wouldn’t be upset at all.  I feel that the bride and groom should be the ones that are most concerned about not getting enough pictures; so if they’re not worrying about it, why should I?

    Post # 14
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    724 posts
    Busy bee

    @BlackOrchid:  But that still doesn’t answer the concerns about 1.  How uncomfortable your guests will be asking your photographer to take photos of them when you’re paying him to photograph your reception, not their mini reunion.  2.  How even if they’re not uncomfortable, how inconvenient it will be for 200 guests to chase him/her/them down whenever they want a photo together or with you and worst of all (since the couple’s comfort seems to be your top priority) 3. How inconvenient it’ll be for *you* to have to stop what you’re doing to track down the photographer when your guests reasonably want their picture with you?  

    Rudeness was never the issue.  The issue with me was how ridiculously inconvenient it’ll be for everyone, your guests, your photographer and you and your new husband.  Unless you have 50 photographers running around or have a much smaller guest list or you get really really lucky and find no one wants a photo with you (not gonna happen) I just don’t see it working

    Post # 15
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    3175 posts
    Sugar bee

    I’d probably leave the reception area to take photos with my friends and then come back. Also, I wouldn’t want an album of a bunch of shots of people I don’t know…and no offense, but barely any people probably want a ton of pictures of the bride and groom. 

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