Post # 77
@Juliepants: Thanks, I hope everyone involved thinks so haha…but in the end, it’s FI’s and my decision, so they’ll have to live with it I suppose. And I think part of the reason it irritated me so much (besides the obvious) is that we don’t see them much, and that Fiance isn’t close to them at all…in fact, they usually irritate him more often than not…and not going to lie, they do the same to me. If it was someone he was super close to, that would be something to consider separately…but in this case, we’re just not comfortable with asking our photographer to take anything more than a few candids at the reception.
Post # 78
I’m changing my vote if they really wanted to go and do a shoot on their own. I was thinking one or two formal posed pictures of just the two of them, which I couldn’t see why that was an issue. But if they are wanting different poses and a mini shoot, that is a horse of a different color entirely. I think what you are suggesting is plenty fair and all I thought they wanted to begin with.
Post # 79
My dh dad asked for a group shot of his family as they were rarerly all together- we said no problem that’s fine- but my mil became very offended that there was a group shot of fil family and none was offered to her extended family on the day- can’t win!
Post # 80
Yeah, it’s a weird request, but it will take literally one minute. I get where you’re coming from, but I don’t think it’s a big deal.
Post # 81
You are not being off base at all, if it is going to take away from YOUR DAY! As a photographer it is clearly stated in my contract that the bride is in charge regardless of who is paying the bill. LITERALLY! Now as many people have mentioned in here, in the overall scheme of things there are times, mainly at the reception when people are just dancing, having a good time and taking a couple of minutes to take a few photos usually is not a big deal. What I almost always do, is go around to many of the couples or families and do some spur of the moment almost photo booth like fun shots. These the bride does not know about until she sees them online. These do not take away from the day and often are appreciated keepsakes of the fun people were having at your wedding.