Post # 1
Im looking for support or any similar photography situations.
My m mother in Law insured we would have a photographer do our wedding. The day of there was only a videographer. I’m so sad about this.
Any advise? Or stories. Thank you.
Post # 2
Did you talk to her about it? Did she say anything? Was there a reason why?
Post # 3
tashie16: So sorry that the photographer plans fell through. I can’t say that the same happened to me but our photographer was awful. He did capture very much of the things we wanted to be able to look back at years from now. The great thing about a wedding is that everyone is armed with a camera, phone, iPad or somethin so guests may be able to send you picture.
Post # 4
tashie16: Hopefully your guests will have lots of nice pics!!
Can you get screen grabs from the videographer that you can then get printed?
Post # 5
I made it pretty clear if I had to choose it would be photograph. She wanted to help! Always asking me what I wanted or needed.
No I haven’t talked to her and hardly at wedding. Why couldn’t she have just told me she didn’t have it. I would of took care of it.
My mom suggesting going to a photo studio and taking better photoS. So sad😢
Post # 6
tashie16: Why was your Mother-In-Law in charge of the photographer? That’s really sad that she let that fall through. So sorry! 🙁 Great idea above about capturing the video stills and getting guest photos.
It won’t be the same, but you can still get some great portrait shots of you and your DH! Those are the main shots you’ll want for years to come anyway.
Post # 7
tashie16: this is a non problem if they shot in digital. You can get images from the raw files. HD quality unless you / your mil hired n00bs
Post # 8
I’m so sorry to hear this 🙁 Not sure why your mother-in-law failed to secure a photographer or think a videographer would be enough. I would have a hard time trusting her in the future.
Anyways, as other bees mentioned I think your next best option is to get some professional shots done anyway. But I would make a whole day about it. I would have a fancy dinner with my husband and I’d get shots at the location where we got married and other places I would’ve wanted to shoot at. I would even re-exchange vows for the photographer to capture. I would try to make it a fun, enjoyable day that you’ll look back on fondly because if you don’t, the photos will just remind you that they weren’t taken at your actual wedding. You don’t want to feel resentment every time you look at them.
I hope that helps. Good luck.
Post # 9
I’m not sure why your mother in law was in charge of hiring your photographer in the first place(???), but I’m very sorry that you didn’t get the wedding photography that you were hoping for. If you care a lot about something in the future, the obvious lesson is to take care of it yourself rather than trust your mother in law (or anyone else, for that matter). Of course lessons don’t help you now, and I second the suggestion to hire a photographer on your own and have some great photos taken in your wedding clothes.
Post # 10
She told me her best friend was going to do it witch I knew she was great. why would I question her. I have known my mil for nine years.
She wanted to help with a lot more. So glad I didn’t let her.
Thanks for the suggestions Bees.
Post # 11
Sounds like this is a painful lesson learned. Don’t trust her with anything important in the future.
Post # 12
Exacty what bitsybee said. I would contact the videographer ASAP, tell them what happened, and they may be able to help or at least provide their footage for you to take to someone who can.
I’m sorry this happened to you. I do have another photographer disaster story to share if you would like to commiserate… My FI’s cousin got married and the photographer lost her keys at the venue and realized right before the wedding started. She was extremely unprofessional and rather than pushing it aside to deal with later, she freaked out and spent the entire time looking for her keys and took ZERO pictures. The only pictures they have are guests pictures, and this was in 2011 so it was before phones took decent quality ones. They have some from people who brought their digital cameras, but still not the same. To top it off, it was during a hurricane and the venue was on the water, which obviously they couldn’t utilize and had to have everything inside the building. It still upsets them to talk about, but at the end of the day they are still married and expecting their second baby in September!
I know it is upsetting, but try to keep perspective: you married your husband and hopefully had an otherwise lovely day. I do think you can salvage some still shots from the video, and in the meantime maybe reach out to some of your guests and see if they have any photos they haven’t shared yet.
Post # 13
kp2kc: thanks for sharing a horror photography story!
Post # 14
tashie16: that is unforgivable !