Post # 1
We’re meeting with our photog this weekend to do a walk through at our venue and determine the best places to take our pictures. I’m a total type A personality so I find it necessary to control every aspect of our wedding day. I know, I know, I’m a psycho (you ladies should know that by now, lol) but I’m really worried about not getting all of the pictures that we want. There are so many small details incorporated into our wedding that I fear the average person would miss them if they weren’t specifically listed on a “must have” sheet.
I know most pictures are obvious (like the couple shots, Bridal Party & family pics) but would it be totally annoying if I gave him a list of pictures that I’d like for him to make sure he captures? For example, I reeeeally want a posed picture of us using our iPhones (FI’s an iPhone developer so this is totally fitting) and one of us sitting in Adirondack chairs overlooking the lake (see, I told you I’m crazy). I guess I could always just suggest these the day of but I’m sure my brain won’t be functioning properly and I can almost guarantee that I’ll completely forget.
As an aside, we locked our photog in with some seriously discounted pricing but he’s since doubled his going rate. Since we’re already getting his services at such a discount, I wouldn’t want to offend him by telling him how to do his job.
Thoughts? Should I just let him do his thing or should I give him a detailed list of our “must have’s”?
Post # 3
I’m not a photog, but everyone we talked to recommended doing just that, making a list of shots we want.
Post # 4
You might be getting a discount, but you’re still paying for a service. As long as you don’t have a list of 20 super specific things I don’t see a problem. Narrow it down to the ones you absolutely want and then let him to his thing from there.
Post # 5
When I booked my engagement photos I sent the photographer a bunch of pictures I had found on line that I loved. I just wanted her to get the feel of what I was looking for. I made sure I said “I have seen you work and trust you will do an excellent job but, I just wanted to try and make your job a little easier”. She was very appreciative that I sent her the pictures and said it would really help her a lot when it comes time to do the photos. I think as long as you give the list in a respectful, not demanding, manner, maybe by starting with a compliment like I did, it will be received very well.
Post # 5
Mine wanted us to have a “must have” list so I know they at least didn’t think it annoying. (and they stuck to it wonderfully for what it’s worth)
Post # 6
I think its perfectly acceptable!.. you gotta be clear with the photographer.. otherwise you can miss some very important pictures you want!
Post # 7
I think that specific shots like you describe are the perfect reasons for a shot list. Those, the photog wouldn’t necessarily think of on his own, since they are personally significant to you guys. Or, specific groupings of people who aren’t in the family-bridal party rotation, that you would like to make sure and get.
It’s the long long lists of the obvious things they would be getting anyway that can be annoying, and sounds like you wouldn’t include those in your list, so go for it!
Post # 8
As a photographer myself, I’d rather you told me beforehand what you were looking for rather than saying after “Oh, I really wanted THIS and THAT.” That said, an event esp a wedding can be crazy (don’t we know that! LOL) so I’d designate someone you trust to remind you to ask for the shots the day of, as both you and the photographer will be caught up in what’s going on. Good luck!
Post # 9
I had a conversation with my photographer about this last week and she says that she’s generally against overly detailed checklists because it can distract her from capturing what’s going on to make sure she’s getting everything on the list. But she did say to let us know any special details or posed picture groupings we wanted included, since that’s not a distraction issue and can definitely be helpful.
It sounds like the stuff you want pictures of falls mostly into the latter category in whcih case I’d say definitely make sure you give your photographer a list ahead of time. He has no way of knowing you want iPhone pictures or pictures by the lake otherwise and these can be done during “picture time” rather than when he’s trying to watch for important moments during the wedding.
Post # 10
If I were photographing a wedding I would take the photos the bride and groom wanted… a list is the best way of knowing what they want =) it’s so easy to forget things too at such an exciting event… having that list will mean the photographer themselves not forgetting a picture they wanted to take!
Post # 11
The only list I ask for is one that has all the formal portraits they would like to have taken. I ask the bride if there is anything specific that she would like, sometimes it comes in list form or I just write it down. Either way, I think it’s perfectly acceptable.
The thing to remember is that if you are requesting a ton of specific shots, you need to schedule more time for pictures. When I’m working on a shot that’s been requested I will usually take a few more frames than normal, just to make sure that I’ve got plenty for you to choose from.
Post # 12
My photographer suggested that we do that. Because she doesnt fully know our vision, nobody does but you. I am very much like you. Very organized, and have my hands in every part of planning. I think no matter if a photographer thinks it annoying or not, you are paying them to do their job. At least your giving them an outline, You would think that actually would make it a bit easier. Idk I made a list for the photog that was broken down into sections
before ceremoy I want us getting ready, etc etc
ceremony, dads walking me down the aisle, his face when he first sees me, our first kiss etc.
details shoes, cake, centerpieces, aisle runner etc
reception parent dances first dance, toasts etc.
kinda so she has a timeline and its organized and she doesnt have to be searching all over a list to make sure she is getting everything.
Post # 13
My photographers told me if there’s something specific like details that we want captured then to let them know, but they said they’ve done a lot of weddings, so they pretty much know what all they should get.
I would just make a list of some things you really want them to get, but I wouldn’t put 100 things on the list.
Post # 14
Better to have a list (or at least guidelines/must-haves) than to be upset about not having the right shots later! I think most professionals would appreciate, or at least be willing to accommodate, your preferences as long as you don’t have a really long, unrealistic list of expectations. And you definitely shouldn’t feel like you deserve less just because you’re paying a discounted rate.
Post # 15
I review must have shots with the couple before hand. These tend to be things like details, a certain location, certain people, and certain groups of people, but it’s never more than a handful of requests.
I would be insulted if someone sent me sample pics of what they wanted that another photographer has captured. If they like that work so much, why didn’t they just hire that photographer?