Post # 1
This has been one of the BIGGEST things that people have had an opinion on. Personally, we would rather wait until AFTER the ceremony to take our pictures together. We really want the first time we see eachother to be when I am walking down the aisle. However, a lot of our friends and family think that it’s “rude” to keep the guests waiting.
I don’t think that it’s rude, since we are having our reception at a museum. It comes with 2 hours of viewing time, so I don’t see why they can’t hang out and have appetizers and look at the museum while we are getting our photos taken. We are doing the photos at the ceremony spot, so they’re not going to take forever to do. What do you guys think? How do you feel about the photographer capturing the “first look”? (BEFORE the ceremony)?
Any of you married brides: Did you choose to do the first look, or wait until the ceremony to see each other? I NEED HELP!
Please explain any experience you have had with either a first look or waiting til after the ceremony.
Post # 3
We had a first look and I loved it! It allowed us to get pictures without having to stress about getting back to our guests. We still ended up missing most of our cocktail hour (which was only about 30 minutes really) to take pictures with our families. It gave us time to be together before the ceremony (you won’t be alone the rest of the wedding) and the walk down the aisle was still amazing. I would highly recommend it!
Post # 4
I’m doing what MissAsB did. We’re doing a first look and the bulk of our photos beforehand, and then the few remaining photos during our cocktail hour. Our photographer really wants us to enjoy our cocktail hour, so we’re going to try to get as many done before as possible! I personally am on the side of hating the lag time. Blagh!
Post # 5
Ditto to what @bakerella said! That’s exactly what we’re doing.
We’re getting photos done at the hotel (first look, bridal party, parents), and some at the venue as well… all before the ceremony.
I truly loathe the dreaded gap (I am one of those people who will skip the ceremony if there is a 2+ hour gap)… sorry, but that’s the honest truth.
Post # 6
- Wedding: December 2010 - Al Cielo / La Laguna
Its not rude at all. As long as you give the guests some appetizers and drinks, 1-2 hours is a good amount of time between ceremony and reception. This was really important to my Fiance to see me walk down the aisle so we are doing ours after the ceremony
Post # 7
Nope i dont think its rude at all…the last wedding I went to was just like this…but they had food and drinks so everyone was happy…just keep it to an hour tops and you will be fine…I will not be doing a first look either…I will see Teddy for the first time walking down the aisle 😉
Post # 8
We did our candid shots before the ceremony and the obligatory wedding party/family shots after the ceremony. Since we had an outdoor early evening ceremony, we wanted to be sure to get the pics done before the sun set!
Post # 9
For us, we’re seeing eachother as I’m walking down the aisle. All picture that don’t require BOTH of us, will be taken beforehand to reduce how much of the reception we miss.
Post # 10
We are taking pictures before the ceremony, but not with each other. So like, me with my girls, his gm, parents, him with my girls, his gm, parents, etc. We won’t see each other till i come down the aisle. After the ceremony, we will finish our pictures all together.
Post # 11
I’m doing what PP is doing. Just take pictures with everyone but each other.
Do the individual pics with the bridal party and family just not the bride and groom together so that you won’t see each other. Then finish pics with each other after the ceremony.
Post # 12
It’s traditional to have the ceremony be the first time your groom sees you in your gown, and to me that’s something that I couldn’t imagine any different! So I don’t see how people can say that it’s rude, when that’s how it’s been done for decades!!
I agree with the others that it is advisable to provides some snacks and what not, but people will do what they want. Some will stay and chat with family, some will leave and go get ice cream at McDonalds (lol that’s what we did at my cousin’s wedding last year), and some might go back to their hotel room for an hour or 2.
We are definately doing the majority of our photos after the ceremony (obvi there will be some of us getting ready, and me with my bridesmaids and Fiance and his groomsmen beforehand). We are providing snacks, water, lemonade, coffe & tea… There will also be games set up for the kidlets, and a slideshow playing in one of the rooms during the social hour as well.
Post # 13
We are doing photos with parents and the bridal party before but with eachother after. I don’t want him to see me in my dress and all beforehand. At our venue, (ceremony and reception in the same place) they provide a trolley to transport guests 20 at a time (because I think they don’t want wanderers) so I think by the time guests sign the guestbook, get a drink and find their seats we will be ready. Our guests will also have access to the butterfly house which is kinda like your venue where thay will not be bored! Maybe just keep the photographer to an hr. between.
Post # 14
we are doing all pictures after the ceremony – theres a gap anyway – ceremony at 230, cocktail hour starts at 5….
so we have more than enough time. and even if we didnt i couldnt do a first look – the look on FH face when i walk down the aisle is one of the most important things to me!
Post # 15
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
We did a first look, and I’m happy we did. But you should do what makes you happy. People will wait. Just don’t discuss it with any of your guests anymore if they’re giving you a hard time, because it’s not their decision to make!
By the way, you can always shorten the time you need for post-ceremoy pictures by taking a lot of the ones that don’t require you to see each other before the ceremony.
Post # 16
I definitely agree with MrsT, it’s a very commonly adhered-to wedding tradition and has been for a very long time, so no one should really expect you to break it, or think any less of you for following it.
Personally, the reason why I won’t be doing a “first look” is because if he and I take our pictures together before the ceremony, we won’t be actually married in those pictures! To me it would be like our very last engagement pictures, just in our wedding getup, and not real “wedding pictures.” Cause we wouldn’t have had the wedding yet! I know that may sound silly to some, but it really would bother me a lot. So, bridal pics and wedding party pics, etc, just not him and i until after we’ve said “I do.”