Post # 1
Hey ladies. Im 24 and recently engaged. Me and my fiance have been together for 6 years. We planned to marry in a year but planning is stressful etc etc. so now it’ll be in 2 years. I really want to do Boudoir photos…65% for me and 35% for him. (Im really nervous about it, I’ve never done it) I wanted to give them as a gift on our wedding night, so I was going to take pics in October. Now that the marriage is 2 years out I still want to do them sooner than later because im so excited about it (and scared lol). So do you think i should still wait or would it still a nice gift even if it wont be for our wedding?
side note: I actually want to do it every 10 years. So when im 25, 35, 45, 55, and idk if ill keep going lol. I think it would be a nice way to still feel sexy as my body changes and i age.
Post # 2
What’s a “boudoir photo”? Hoping it may be something different from what I’m visualizing. Or that you’re willing to be flexible with those time lines.
Hope it works out perfectly, however you decide.
Post # 3
If you want to take them then go for it. I hate this as a wedding gift because it comes off like he got your body as a prize, so to me this has to be 100% for you. Also, any photo can be sexy.
Post # 4
My photographer does boudoir shoots and I think they’re amazing (I’ve been toying with the idea of it but I think I’d be too awkward. I vote you go ahead and take them when you want. It doesn’t need to be “bridal” either.
Bonus for couples boudoir session that I’m obsessed with:
Post # 5
what r u visualizing? Lol and they are sexy photos. Doesnt have to be too provavative and very intimate.
Post # 6
I did a boudior photoshoot recently and it was fun! Not awkward at all. My photographer and I went to a beautiful pre-civil war historical house and it was very simple and peaceful. I’m giving my fiance a book for the wedding because I think I look hot, lol. We’ve been together for 8 years, and you’ve been with your fiance for 6 years, so I don’t think it comes off as an ownership or patriarchal thing, because you have built a mutual relationship. It’s completely about you feeling beautiful, and wanting to share it with your future husband. As for the time you give it to him, I chose to do it as a wedding gift but it can really be at any time. I see no reason why it has to be exclusively a wedding gift, especially if YOU are excited about it.
Post # 7
- Wedding: January 2020 - Round Rock, TX
I love the idea of boudoir shoot! I’m planning on doing them once SO and I get engaged. I am going to do the photo shoot for myself, to boost my confidence and to have fun! But I plan on saving the photos and giving them to him either as a wedding present or as a 1 year anniversary present. I don’t see it as him “winning my body as a prize” at all. It’s not like we haven’t been intimate already, so nothing is changing. It would just be a fun, sexy present that he wouldn’t be expecting!
I say go for it! You can always do it in October like you were planning, and you can wait to give him the pictures until the wedding if you want! Congrats on the engagement, btw 🙂
Post # 8
They could be a belated engagement present.
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2016 - Wedgewood Las Vegas
Go for it!
These are on my bucket list as well!
I think they are extremely intimate, sexy, artistic, and empowering. I don’t find them sexist or anything like that at all.
I wish I had been able to get these done for myself before our wedding in 2016 as a gift for my husband as well. I’m hoping to do them soon as an anniversary gift!
Post # 10
why not just buy a good camera and some outfits and make it a honeymoon activity with hubby as photographer?
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2020 - La Jolla, CA
I recently did boudoir photos as well, and am giving them as a wedding gift. They cane out really amazing! I would’ve voted to give as a wedding gift for you, it’s just so far away that I think you’ll have a hard time keeping them a surprise from him. I know I want to show my Fiance already, and we’re getting married in August lol. I can’t imagine 2 years!
it’s much more than just taking sexy photos in lingerie…A pro has access to phenomenal editing, knows how to pose you, and make you feel comfortable!
Post # 12
I’m getting mine done in a few weeks! I can’t wait, my photographer is doing a ‘marathon’ so I had my Maid/Matron of Honor book the spot before me, there will be an onsite pro HMUA and lots of champagne so I think I’ll be pretty relaxed! I want to give mine as a wedding gift to Fi, he knows I’m getting them done though. I have to go out of town to get them done and I think it would have been hard to explain why I’m leaving for the weekend with a suitcase full of lingerie hahaha
for what it’s worth we’ve been together for 5 years, I don’t think he’s earning my body so much as he finally gets to see it after an incredibly busy year of planning and everything, we may have gotten a little lazy in the bedroom…lol
Post # 13
I love this and feel it could be such an empowering thing. To me it’s not about ownership, it’s about embracing your sexuality and your womanhood.
My mom was so critical of herself growing up. She never ever wanted to be in photos because she was so self conscious. She was never able to compliment me or tell me I was pretty. I realized as an adult I was modeling her behavior, and it was a painful realization. She could have been such a positive role model for me as a very strong woman, and made me feel comfortable and confident in my own skin. I’d like to be that role model for my own daughter one day.
My point is, it’s such an awesome thing to celebrate your body in a positive way. I say go for it. Don’t wait for the wedding!
Post # 14
I drove my FH crazy the last time he went on vacation without me, because I sent him boudoir-style photos that I’d taken myself – lingerie, red lipstick, provocative but no explicit nudity. I loved doing it and he was… very appreciative… when he got back.
Do it whenever! You could also do them for your dating anniversary, your engagement anniversary, or his birthday.
Post # 15
Two of my cousins have done boudior photos. They posted not so risque photos on social media. I personally wouldn’t do it as I don’t have the confidence. However if you feel comfortable doing it, then do it.