Photos of his ex

posted 6 months ago in Relationships
Post # 46
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Helper bee

As they say, you turn the page when moving onto the next chapter, not rip it out entirely.

Post # 47
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

This is soooo tricky. As a woman I do go down memory lane, even though I wish I was never with my ex. I look sometimes at this strange past I lived in and it’s just so weird. I only do if I’m bored and it is very rare. But guys… men and women do things differently and for different reasons. Not saying guys don’t go down memory lane in just the same way. But is it possible they’re less likely to? If you want, you can revisit the folder and see if it is accessed again. If it is not accessed again for a very long time then that’s one thing. But if it is accessed again frequently then you’ll know he is missing this person. But there’s other factors to consider as well, such as their relationship where they do have a child. Your radar is on now and that’s not a bad thing, just don’t drive yourself crazy. I don’t blame you for wanting answers. You looked, now you know a little something which is the punishment for looking but sometimes it isn’t such a punishment. You may have looked because you felt there’s something to find. 

Post # 48
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

If they were just pics of him and his ex I’d have an issue with it. But these are family photos of the kids and the ex happens to be in some of them. I have some pics still with my kid’s dad in them but I don’t even like him at all. Family pics are a whole different ballgame than just ex pics. I’d actually think it was bizarre if he didn’t still have them. So yeah it’s normal. But the big issue here is why did you feel the need to snoop? I’m not judging you for it, I was in a relationship where I had to snoop and it was horrible. And he was horrible and I did find horrible things. I feel like if you’re at a point that you feel the need to snoop around, the relationship is already dead, trust is gone. 

Post # 49
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I’m a big believer in purging your ex out of your life.  Getting rid of cards, pics, and all other things.  Things pertaining to the children, is different.  When I had trouble getting over a relationship, a Therapist asked if I was still holding on to any of their momentos.  I was holding on to these things, when I purged them I was able to move on.  There are an amazing amount of people on here, saying they never snoop, and I have a hard time believing it.

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