- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
Bees, calm me down and help me put my words together here.
I have been friends with “Sally” for 10 years and she considers me her “big sister.” She is sweet and I enjoy spending time with her. The problem is that ever since my wedding she has been Super Copycat, especially now that she herself is engaged. She wanted to know every detail of my wedding and to replicate it down to the shoes I wore, even asking friends of mine to give her information. While I was at first flattered, and among our sisterly relationship enjoyed sharing ideas with her, it quickly got to a point where I pulled way back.
Further, she asked me to be a bridesmaid but changed her wedding date 5 times. Finally I couldn’t make the final date she posted due to work. She said she just couldn’t imagine her day without me, but as everyone else could make the date I didn’t want to be a stick in the mud when everything else was working for her. I shared with her that I could still make her actual ceremony and reception, but I wouldn’t be available for any “getting ready” stuff. So, she asked me to back out, and I did, because she wanted the whole day to be special with her girls and I totally respected that wish. Still, she then asked me and my husband to run a portion of her reception including running the iPod for an hour, doing skits (we’re actors) and singing a song we sang at our own wedding (no surprise.) Needlesstosay, none of that is going to happen.
What pushed me over the edge just now:
Years ago (keep in mind I’ve been married for over 2 years now) I blocked her from viewing my wedding album and any related album on Facebook. Unfortunately for me, she recently created a new profile that I forgot to block. Lo and behold, she has gone through and liked several of the photos and has taken it upon herself to photoshop them. These photos were already photoshopped by my professional photographer. She proceeded to post one of me on my wall with the caption: “Beautiful! Photoshop fun!” that makes me appear to have an orange tan. This, from a girl that constantly posts videos and links about how women shouldn’t be Photoshopped to the max. WTF…?
This isn’t the first time she’s messed with my photos. She once created a photo collage of them which was nice, a little creepy, but it was just the one time, and early in her copycat escapades, so I let it slide.
So…I want to call her out. Say, “Hey! Thanks but no thanks. You just photoshopped a copywritten photo of a professional photographer that already photoshopped it…can you please not over photoshop me? Thanks!”
Advice welcome. Sigh.