- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
We are having 5 Groomsmen and I want 5 BMs, have 4 confirmed and happy about it. Mentioned being one to a friend in January- have not had any contact with her since then. Haven’t hung out, texted, communicated- nothing. Not bc we were mad or anything, just neither of us initiated anything. Busy, etc.
My dilemma is, should I keep her as a BM? I don’t really know her that well, we became close for a short while and hung out a lot before I moved about 20min away from where I used to live…
I read somewhere that you should pick a bridesmaid who will feel it is an honor, not a burden. When I mentioned it to her, she wasn’t THAT excited. Actually none of my BMs have been, but that is besides the point.
I have other options. Here they are
(gay) male college friend – He has been a great friend to me, and he is just thrilled to be coming to the wedding. He lives in FL (we’re in Texas). If he were a girl he would be a Bridesmaid or Best Man instantly, but he’s not. I always feel weird about the whole dude-bridesmaid thing anyways. Also people might ask questions, like did they date? Nope, he’s gay, but kinda uncomfortable sharing that info. But still people talk…
Close college friend 1- Was very close with her, she even visited me when I moved to graduate school. We lost touch because I don’t have her number anymore and she doesn’t have facebook (who does that!).
Close college friend 2- Good friends with 1, but she is on fb and we communicate occasionally. But I was always closer to college friend 1
Awesome college buddy- Very close with her, but lost touch over time due to moving- she isn’t a big facebook user etc. She was ALWAYS there for me, ALWAYS. I would feel very good about having her be a Bridesmaid or Best Man. Close college friends 1 and 2 weren’t nearly as supportive of my as her. Not sure if she would even have the funds for a plane ticket to come though, she is in TN and we’re in TX…
So what do you ladies think? Please help!!!