- 4 years ago
- Wedding: November 2018
I suppose this is just a small vent, but if any of you have and pearls of wisdom, I wouldn’t mind hearing them!
My Fiance and I recently got engaged (like, two weeks ago, so… RECENTLY), and though we’re far from picking an exact date, we’ve settled a bit on October or November of 2018, for three reasons:
1) I want to have plenty of time to plan. We both love fall and the idea of a fall wedding, but if we were to be married in the fall of 2017, we would have needed to start booking things, like, YESTERDAY, and I’d prefer to have plenty of time to look at different options rather than feeling like I’m booking whatever I can find in a panic.
2) My Fiance will be finishing up pharmacy school this summer, so if the wedding was that fall (2017), there would be SO much going on in those months for him, with graduating, trying to pass boards and get licensed, finding/starting a new job, moving back from where he’s in school, then crunch time of wedding-ing, all at once.
3) If we wait one more year, that’s one more year to save money for it, which will make a HUGE difference (like, between having a few thousand bucks and nothing lol).
We’ve talked about it a bit, and I’d be fine with doing a small, affordable wedding, but the Fiance really wants to have everyone there and make a big deal out of it (we do only plan on being married once, after all!), so that isn’t really an option. My Mom has been hilariously impatient (she’s already been begging to go dress shopping), which has been no big deal – I’m impatient too, but I know that the reasons we have for waiting an extra year are really reasonable. What really got to me, though, was my Mom telling me that my Grandma nearly started crying when she told her that we were planning for fall 2018, because she’s afraid she won’t live that long.
PLEASE, no picking on my Mom or Grandma for being rude or unfair or anything. I have an honest family, and I wouldn’t want them any other way. But that broke my heart. She’s 76, is currently recovering from a heart attack she had a couple of weeks ago, and my Grandpa passing away a couple years ago has been REALLY hard on her. She’s always been one to talk/joke about dying and who gets her stuff and this, that, and the other thing, but this is a bit much. Now I’m trying to decide if I should push for getting married sooner for this reason, or just stick with my original plan. Ugh. I just needed to gripe for a moment, I guess, cuz I’m a bit lost as to what to do with this information.
(ETA: Just to clarify, it’s heartbreaking because of my Grandma being upset and thinking about her passing away, not because of me having to move a prospective date. Just didn’t want that being mixed up.)