(Closed) Picking a location – our own backyard???

posted 8 years ago in Venue
  • poll: Should we use our own backyard for our wedding? (please read OP first)
    yes, go for it : (5 votes)
    22 %
    no, i'd keep looking for locations : (16 votes)
    70 %
    other (please explain) : (2 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
    39 posts

    I voted for yes but then read the post. ABSOLUTELY do NOT have the wedding in your backyard. If you are in foreclosure then the ownership of the house is in limbo and you should not be planning an event, inviting guests and investing more money into this property.


    I think you should reevaluate your entire financial picture and plan a wedding when the time is right for you to do it the correct way, To do it in your backyard as you proposed would only be adding more stress to your life.



    The only thing you need for a wedding is a groom, an officiant, and a couple of witnesses.


    I am having my wedding in my mother’s backyard. Like yours, it is beautiful, and the perfect location for what I wanted for my wedding. However, I wouldn’t dream of even having a wedding if I was in the middle of such financial turmoil… nevermind have it at a house that may be sold before the wedding against my will.



    Post # 4
    269 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Do not invest so much money into a property that you’re not able to keep.  For 1-2k you could find a VERY nice outdoor location!! I’m certain of it.  Keep looking at gardens, or perhaps rent out a local bed and breakfast – they often have great gardens for outdoor weddings.

    Post # 6
    46469 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I certainly don’t want to know any details about the bankruptcy, but if you owe so much money that you are declaring bankruptcy and losing your home, I suggest that the money you are talking about spending on a wedding would be better spent repaying some of the people you owe money.

    Get your financial affairs in order, then plan a wedding you can afford.

    Post # 7
    3148 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    @julies1949: although i completley agree with you I think we need to remember the OP is going to have a wedding outside one way or the other and she seems to not want advice on her finanical situation and more on where to have her wedding.

    I have voted not in the yard as PP have mentioned it seems risky and if you have to put 1-2k into it you mine as well put that towards renting an area you know will be there when your big day comes.

    Post # 8
    39 posts

    @MamaHusky3: I am happy that you have your priorities in line. What I am suggesting (and maybe should have explained further) is that perhaps your priorities need to be changed. You asked for an opinion about what you should do with your wedding and I am explaining my thoughts on it.


    I think that you need to reassess your priorities if you are even a little bit serious about investing money in a house you don’t own for a wedding you might not be able to hold there. There are so many things wrong with this type of thinking it is hard to start.


    What type of marriage do you want? One that starts off with debt, stress, and uncertainty? Or one that starts off with good financial decisions, a solid outlook, and some money in the bank? You are on this website which is a really good start for inspiration for a beautiful, creative wedding at little to no cost.


    The reasons for the foreclosure and the bankruptcy do not need to be explained on this website, or to anyone else for that matter. However, even if you have arrived at this predicament through no fault of your own, you still must act according to the grave consequences of being in this situation.

    Post # 10
    1124 posts
    Bumble bee


    No, no, and no. You don’t really know when the property will go and it would be such a shame to have to cancel the event because of that. Backyard weddings always seem like a financially smart decision when they aren’t! Often they end up costing you the same as if you had booked a venue. Also, do you have insurance on the property? If you don’t and someone gets hurt, you get sued.

    Are there any forest preserves near you? Usually they rent areas for cheap. Any venues that are more open and near the outdoors – like a barn?

    For the cost of what it would be to fix up your yard, we are having our entire wedding!

    Post # 11
    39 posts

    @MamaHusky3:I feel for you. It is a really tough position to be in! Do you have any relatives that could offer their homes for a day? You could do a potluck and add a lot of DIY touches that could make the day really special. What about trying to look into parks that are not in your immediate area? If you are in South Jersey you can always look in Philadelphia, right?Also, you can get married in a courthouse with just your closest family members then throw a party later when you are more stable in your living and financial situation.


    I hope that you are able to figure something out. Don’t forget to check out recycledbride.com, oncewed.com, ebay.com and craigslist free for great secondhand wedding stuff at a steal! You might be able to spend the 1-2k on a nice location and get the other stuff at steep discounts.


    Good luck!

    Post # 13
    4137 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    no way! first of all, backyard weddings are EXPENSIVE. you have to rent everything – tables, chairs, linens, bathrooms, lighting, etc. those things add up quickly. second, don’t put ANY money into a property that is in foreclosure. you would be throwing away $2k. not to mention, there’s always a chance the property could be sold by july and you would have to cancel the wedding.

    really though, do you want to start your marriage on a property in foreclosure that caused you to file for bankruptcy? seems like bad vibes to me.

    Post # 14
    2090 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I agree with the others, do not plan to have a reception on a property that is foreclosed on. You’re tempting fate. How many people are you expecting? Could you rent a private room at a restaurant and have it there? Do you have any friends/family who live in larger apartment complexes with club houses/BBQ area/etc. that can be rented?

    You don’t have to talk here about your bankruptcy certainly – but is your bankruptcy lawyer aware of your wedding plans (exactly how much you have saved and will be spending)? There are some pretty stringent rules on your pre-bankruptcy spending, especially if the wedding were within only a couple months of declaring bankruptcy. Even if you don’t think the wedding is “that much”, just make sure your lawyer knows about it.

    Post # 15
    2103 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    What about a local/state park or community center garden? Or a relative’s or friend’s house?

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