Picking a new friend as a bridesmaid.

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@BEWLove: 

I did! For real, almost identical situation… Fiance wanted four groomsmen, I had three girls I couldn’t imagine NOT having in my wedding. Anddd… like 6 months before Fiance proposed, a new girl started working at my job. I had kinda taken her under my wing (it’s not an easy job, and there’s a LOT to learn and it can be overwhelming) and helped her out and trained her… we kind of just clicked, understood each other, got along great, and we went to a lot of happy hours after work to share appetizers and talk about life… turns out we’re very different in our upbringings and lifestyles, but practically the same person in our beliefs and our values. I think she’s great, we’re friends, but we rarely see much of each other outside of work and our happy hours…

And even if we drift away in the future, she’s an important person to me in this stage of my life! This important time, with wedding-planning, starting grad school (so is she), and taking steps forward in our careers… even if one day we go separate ways and somehow wind up never speaking again, I know I won’t have any regrets at all about having her as a bridesmaid because I will always be able to say she was a great friend and help during this special time. 🙂

 

 

EDIT: you have a lot of great pro’s on your list… maybe this experience will bring you closer and you’ll have another super close friend down the road!! 🙂

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would wait awhile to pick your bridal party. If you’re not getting married until 2014, a lot can change before then.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would give it a few months – you never know where things are going to go with work! I had a girlfriend at work that I seriously considered asking – we’d been working together for about 2 years, and were very close and connected almost instantly in many ways.

In the end, I decided not to ask her and I haven’t regretted it since. While I love this friend and we’re still very close, she got a new job a little while ago, and the friendship has kinda fallen by the wayside. We still catch up and keep in touch, and it’s just like always, but it’s not that frequent. Much as I love her, I don’t want to look back on my photos and have no idea who my bridesmaids were – believe me it does happen! Future Mother-In-Law could only remember the name of one of her bridesmaids after 20 years!

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@BEWLove:  I think you should wait until you are a little closer to the wedding before you choose.  It is natural to form relationships with people that you spend everyday with like the girls you work with but are you sure that they will still be in your lives when you look at your wedding pictures on your 10 year anniversary?  If you didn’t work with these girls anymore (you changed jobs or they did) Would you still be as close?

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I suggest you have 4 on each side and your fiance finds another role for his 5th. I wanted 3 but Darling Husband wanted 2. So we had 2 each, and my 3rd choice girl did a reading.

Personally I think asking someone you don’t know real well, is risky.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I personally believe that you should only pick people you are really close to and could see in your life for a long time, but that is just me.  I prefer uneven bridal parties, then putting extra people in.  Either way you should think about if for a few months and find out what is trully important to you for your wedding.

Post # 9
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Newbee

Hi BEWLove,

I am in the same situation with picking bridesmaids and stumbled on your post. I would like to find out how did you go? Did you end up picking the third girl as your bridesmaid? If you did, was it a great decision? I am thinking of asking 2 new friends I’ve only known for a year and abit who have expressed that they would love to be in my wedding but I said I have not made up my mind about bridesmaids yet.

Please share your experience as it may help me decide too!

Thanks xx

Post # 10
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25 posts
Newbee

BEWLove :  

Hi BEWLove,

I am in the same situation with picking bridesmaids and stumbled on your post. I would like to find out how did you go? Did you end up picking the third girl as your bridesmaid? If you did, was it a great decision? I am thinking of asking 2 new friends I’ve only known for a year and abit who have expressed that they would love to be in my wedding but I said I have not made up my mind about bridesmaids yet.

Please share your experience as it may help me decide too!

Thanks xx

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