(Closed) Picking a Wedding Date – Week After Cousin or Labor Day

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
1149 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I think the cousin issue depends on a lot of factors: how close are you and your families?  Are both weddings in the same city, and are they also in the same city as most of the family who will be attending both?  If you would be making family travel a long way twice in a month, I would consider that.  Will your cousin be on his honeymoon during wedding and would you care if he missed it?

I personally would not mind attending a labor day wedding, as it is not a holiday where I usually have special plans.  But I know for a lot of teachers or people with kids, it can be a tough time of year.  I had to nix labor day for my wedding because 3 niece/nephews are all starting different colleges this fall and SILs and BILs would be busy moving them in, etc.  A late August date presented the same problem, though.

Post # 3
3031 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast

Are you against delaying the honeymoon? You don’t have to go *immediately*. I wouldn’t pick the week after if you think your guest list will overlap a good bit.  Labor day would be the better choice of the 2, i think. 

Post # 4
1111 posts
Bumble bee

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elemmac:  It’s not bad etiquette to have your wedding close to a friend/family member. With that said, you aren’t really being mindful of the guests who would like to attend both weddings. Wouldn’t it be heartbreaking for one of your aunts or uncles to decline either yours or your cousin’s because they are too close together and he/she can’t afford both? 

As for holiday weekends – I’m not a fan of weddings over long weekends. And still, labour day is the first weekend of September, so if your cousin’s wedding is mid-August, you are only leaving 2-3 weeks between the two. I’m sure you’ll have the same situation as above with people not being able to attend both.

Do you have to take your ski vacation honeymoon right after the wedding? Why not have a Fall wedding, and go skiing in the new year? Or have a spring wedding and go skiing in August? 

Post # 5
676 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

My wedding is Labor Day weekend. I just plan on sending save the dates and invites a little earlier than normal to give people enough time to save/plan. I would go with Labor Day weekend 🙂 

Post # 7
2866 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

I would go with Labor Day weekend. People have an extra day off, well most of them. Plus it’s not usually a big holiday like July 4th or Christmas. Just speaking from experience, two of my cousins had marriages with a week of each other. Due to travel, we could only go to one, and went with the one we knew about first. I felt bad, but it just wasn’t feisble for us.

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