Post # 1
I’m wondering if any of you ever tried to contact important family members to ask them if they already have plans on any specific dates yet. I was thinking about doing this but wondering if I’m just opening up a big can of worms. Obviously, we’ll ask parents, etc, but the other attendees?
Ours will be small (50-75) and I was thinking about asking people if anyone already had any weekends booked next summer.
Worth it or disaster waiting to happen?
Post # 3
Ask the people who are essential. If you ask a number of people in advance, and it works out that you have to pick a date when some of them are unavailable, then they may feel slighted that you chose a date when they are unavailable. Also, trying to get availability for a number of people creates more work for you. Save those hassles for the RSVPs.
Post # 4
@BrideNH: i would ask you and FI’s parents and siblings, and maybe your intended bridal party if you already know who it is, but no one else. trying to work around other people’s schedules is a NIGHTMARE, trust me, and if they already have plans for next year they can cancel them if your wedding is important to them. you are telling them WELL in advance.
Post # 5
I think as long as you can accomodate yourselves, and the people you reallly really want there [parents, siblings], then just go from there. You’ll NEVER be able to make everyone happy.. and it’s possible they could forget or double book your day anyway!
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@BrideNH: We didn’t ask anyone before setting a date but we set our date out two years in advance and let the important people know ASAP so they could book the date. We haven’t had any complaints but we’re having a small wedding with family and close friends so everyone seemed to have no problem accommodating our date. In fact, the only complaint we’ve had is that the Florida/Georgia football game will be on TV the afternoon of our wedding but nobody said they would miss our wedding for the game (thank goodness for smartphones.)
Post # 7
@BrideNH: I would just ask the people in your bridal party and your very closest relatives (say parents and siblings) and work around it that way. You can never 100% accomodate to everyone but at least you are checking with those most closest to you!