- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
I have a huge problem I’m hoping you can help me solve. I am recently engaged and people have started to ask who will be in our wedding party. Specifically, I have a group of 5 girlfriends each of whom I have considered a “best” friend at one point in my life. Problem is every since we graduated college there’s been drama within our group and our allies towards eachother shift like the wind!
One of the girls in this group (lets call her A) has been telling me another one the girls (we’ll call her B) thinks she’s going to be my Maid/Matron of Honor if not at least a bridesmaid. “B” is someone who I used to consider my best friend for a very long time but time and time again she has proven to be flaky and untrustworthy. I wasn’t even thinking of having her in my bridal party at all…but now I see how much it means to her and makes me think that maybe she does still hold a high value on our friendship. “A” is also a friend I have known for a very long time and we’ve discussed being eachother’s bridesmaids but she is also a little bit sketchy at times (not nearly as much as ‘B’ is but still not sure if its worth breaking a friendship with ‘B’ if it means putting ‘A’ in the bridal party. Out of the 5 the other three don’t seem to care or really want to be a bridesmaid so I’m not too worried about them, however I know it would still hurt them to see me pick “A” & “B” as bridesmaids at not them.
I have other girls apart from this group consisting of family and good friends but would still want to possibly include either “A” or “B” depending on how close we are at the time I choose my bridesmaids and how much interest they are showing in the wedding planning. What do I do? Choose both, one of them or neither??