- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
I’ve been reading this incredible website for a while and finally decided to join, because I need your advice. I’m trying to sort out a bridal party without hurting feelings and I feel like it’s impossible – and I can’t sleep over it. I’m absolutely a people pleaser – and planning a wedding is a a people pleaser’s nightmare!
Here’s my situation. My fiance has decided he wants 4 groomsmen (and had no problem picking them). I’ve asked his sister to be my Maid/Matron of Honor (easy! she’s awesome) and now need to pick 3 friends. I have one friend who’s in her 50’s and is like a second mom to me, but I don’t want her to feel awkward with lots of young people around – but I totally want to ask her. I have a good friend from work who I’ve only known a few months who I really want to be in it and have already pretty much asked her to be a bridesmaid. Then I have a group of 3 friends (X, Y, Z). Two of the girls, lets call them X, and Z, are planning their own weddings – I was invited to X’s wedding as a bridesmaid but said no due to the expense (destination wedding).It was tricky to do, and I don’t want to upset her anymore by this situation. I’m supposed to do a reading in Z’s wedding – and her fiance will be one of the groomsmen in our wedding. Y – is single, and I don’t want her to feel left out. My inclination is to choose Z – she’s super low key and a great friend, but I don’t want to upset X and Y – who ‘ve I known since college. My fear is that if I invite one, I hurt them all, and if I don’t invite any of the 3 – I hurt them too. So do I not invite any of them? Or just one???
Even as I type this I see how complicated this all sounds (sorry!) but any advice would be super appreciated!!
Thank you all!!