(Closed) Picking Bridesmaids – HELP!

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
4062 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would have the 3 friends, X, Y and Z, be bridesmaids and then ask the other two to do readings or something like that during the ceremony. Having someone almost twice the age of the other BM’s could be weird (mainly for that person).

Also think about who is the best at keeping you laughing, distracted, calm, etc. THOSE are the people you want with you on the day.

Post # 4
1060 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

out of X,Y,Z, I would choose only who you really want ( aka Z ). There are so many posts on here about feeling slightly obligated to choose people and it rarely works out well. I’m sure the other girls will get over it, and maybe you can have them do a readong or something else to include them in your day.

Post # 5
412 posts
Helper bee

Ask who you want, but I wouldn’t not ask X just because you couldn’t make it to her wedding. If it was an expense issue then, and it’s not an expense issue now, and that’s the only reason holding you back, then do it. Honestly, I feel like it would support the expense reason for backing out vs I said it was money but there’s other stuff too, since now that money’s off the table, I still don’t think you’re one of my best friends.. you know?  This will show her that you really do care about her and wish you could have been at her wedding. If she has hurt feelings about it, she can always decline. If you’ve already drifted apart anyway, then don’t sweat it, and don’t ask her. I’m sure she’s also noticed the shift in your relationship.

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