(Closed) Picking Bridesmaids HELP!!

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would just add the extra bridesmaids to avoid the drama. It must really mean a lot to her if she asked so I would try to include everyone. Remember you’re uniting 2 families and you want everyone to feel included. The more the merrier

Post # 4
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Newbee

There are other ways of honouring them – you could ask them to do a reading or some other non-bridesmaid duty. You could take them when you look for your dress.

I guess it depends how much drama it would cause. Good luck xxx

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If you have 3 now and are contemplating adding 4 more, how does that get up to 9?

I think you should have the stepdaughters be bridesmaids and maybe have the nieces do readings.  Then you’ll be at 5, which is less over-the-top than 7 (or 9?!).

Post # 7
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2999 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’d add the step daughters and ask the nieces to participate in some other way.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@soontobemrsnapoleon:  Eek… Has he picked his groomsmen?? Is there any reason the girls couldn’t stand on his side in black dresses that match the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses? Or maybe put the one you’re closer with on your side and the other on his?

Post # 11
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1361 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t think you need the nieces, but you should definitely include your future step daughters.

Post # 12
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41 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2012

You can still have a small wedding with a large wedding party!  We had 8 on each side so 16 total and it never felt too big for me.  I’d say include them and avoid the drama and/or hurt feelings.

Post # 13
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1994 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

You don’t really have to have even sides. I feel like you should go ahead and ask the stepdaughters. Not doing so will probably lead to more stress than having a larger wedding party. Please don’t obsess over the small things. Remember that you still have to be married after this. 

Post # 14
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6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I agree with bride5512 ……. If it’s going to cause problems in your relationship I’d add them.  

on a side note .. the NINE bridesmaids thing reminds me of Steel Magnolia’s … IDK if you’ve seen that movie but it made me giggle lol .  

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

From experience I would say extra bridesmaids MEANS extra drama. I would just have them do a reading or help mix the sand. They want to be included in the wedding they didnt exactly say they wanted 2 be a bridesmaid. As for the nieces, I have 2 nieces I am very dearly close 2 and neither are in the wedding. I wouldn’t add the nieces. Honestly I would hold off picking people for as long as you can, like at least 9 mons before the wedding.

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