Post # 1
Ok ladies I need your advice. Me n my SO have been legally married a Lilly over a year a year n one day to be exact. We r thinking of doing a vow renewal and have a full blown wedding. How did you pick a date e had set one that was smashed between us going to our new station and his first deployment. Now I’m not too sure that’s a great idea mostly because I’m really new at the whole millitary wife thing n have no clue how far in advance he can request leave or if his new squadron has specific restrictions on leave before a deployment. So my question is for you millitary wives who made it leagal then celebrated how did you pick a date. How long after did you have a wedding? And when is it too long after?
Post # 3
I just responded to your other thread and I found this. I didn’t do wedding then vow renewal, but I suggest maybe not doing it right before deployment. He’s going to be stressed out enough, and if the deployment dates change (as they so often do) you could be in trouble.
I would pick a time when you’ll be settled a bit. It sounds like new duty station and moving are going to be quite close to each other, did I read that right? If so.. I know it sucks to wait, but doing it after the deployment is probably your best bet. Give it a couple months after he gets back to do it, so that if there’s any extensions you won’t lose everything. On the upside, you’ll have lots of time to plan!
We’re waiting until after this deployment. We could have done it before but we never would have enjoyed it as much. He will be home Feb/March and getting married mid May. We covered our asses and made sure each vendor knew things could change. They were all okay with this and included military clauses. Other people also do wedding insurance, but I didn’t feel it was necessary.
Good luck planning!
PS The date you have listed is my birthday!!
Post # 4
thank you so much for your advice. we move/ne station in Febuary and he is schedule to deploy in Jan of next year but it just makes me anxious to ry to do it between but at the same time we have family asking when is the wedding so i feel a lil stuck on it i have even ssidered not doing it till dec of 2013 gives u splenty of time i know he will be more confortable in the squadron n will have more seniority on taking leave.
i know i’m just really indecisive we both are i like the idea of plenty of planning time ha ha
Post # 5
Honestly, If you move in Feb and he depoys in Jan there’s LOTS of time for a vow renewal. It sounded a bit like Move in Feb, deploy in April sort of situation.
If you get moving you could certainly have a VR in September or so. Much later than that and you risk the deployment being moved up and ruin wedding plans. Maybe wait a bit until he’s got a rough traning schedule and he’ll have to ask about how far in advance he can book leave but it sounds like you’ve got time if you wanted to do it pre-deployment. You’re already legally wed though, that’s the important part!