Post # 1
Help! I’m having a difficult time choosing my maid of honor. I only have 2 maids–one is my best friend the other is my sister-in-law. I have always thought that my best friend would be my maid of honor. She is out-of-state and my sister-in-law is close to where we are getting married. My best friend is someone that I resonate with and whom I trust to keep me on target with, well, “me”. However, we have gone months without communicating because of distance and schedules. She is far away and I feel will really only be there for the week of the wedding and not be able to give me any support in planning anything. My SIL
I was my SIL’s Maid/Matron of Honor and while I know that there are no “backsies” I would like her to know that I truly value her as a SIL and a friend. I’m also afraid that I’ll be asking my SIL to help me a lot because she is so near and I think it would only be fair to honor her with the title if she’s going to be in the midst of everything with me. I would honestly make both maids of honor (well, one maid one matron) but then is that really honoring them if there are no other maids? I would really appreciate any advice! Thanks!
Post # 3
@Cinvan: I can see your problem. My first thought is your BFF as Maid/Matron of Honor. Honestly, you are going to only have 2, so they are both going to be important to you regardless of which one you chose. I think they would feel honored with either one, quite honestly. Your BFF may be a help if you can email her pics of dresses, flowers, ect – thanks to the internet communication these days. It’s a great way to incorporate/include someone. You really have to go with your heart and think of it this way… who do you picture standing next to you in the ceremony… who do you have right behind you to hand your flowers to…. you need to picture “the day”. Everything else will work out. Like I said, BOTH sounds like they’d be involved in most decisions and the process since you only have two standing up.
Post # 4
I think that you should stay true to your original thought of having your Boyfriend or Best Friend as your Maid/Matron of Honor. You two have history and the distance shouldn’t change that. The fact that you’re including your SIL in your party is still a nice gesture. I’ve always thought that that BM’s were people to help during your entire wedding planning & prep process. Either way I’m sure both of them will feel very honored.