Post # 1
My mom works herself to death. FH and I thought we might like to get married on the 13th (eek! friday the 13th!) of July because it’s close to our actual anniversary and because it’s one day the banquet hall we like has EVERY room open (yay! having the place all to ourself!) but she doesn’t think she will be able to take off of work because of fiscal year end and she is the only person at work who runs fiscal year end…
It makes me sad. I wish that something like her daughter’s wedding would make the office give her a break. I know she would be able to take the day OF the wedding off, but the rhearsal would be hard on her and I don’t want to add to her stress…
What do I do? Do I go with my gut and pick the day my FH and I want? Or do I try to give my mom a break and push the wedding off until August? I’m really torn…
Post # 3
I couldn’t imagine a company telling a person: “you can’t go to your child’s wedding”. I think it could be possible and she is just concerned. Someone will have to do the extra work, I’m sure she’s done it for others.
My mother is a teacher and taking a week off prior to the christmas break for me. No one is going to tell her no, even though stuff like that is taboo for teachers.
Post # 4
I don’t think they would tell her she couldn’t be there… But I think she FEELS like they will. We are a lot alike, and the pressure to please is a HUGE burned on both of us.
Call it a bit of a personality disorder 😛
I think if I pushed into August then I would be in the same situation, though, only at my own job. We have four golf tournaments in a row and one huge event… These past three weeks have been awful and busy and I can’t imagine having to deal with all of this and get ready for my wedding next year… July is better for me. August is better for her.
How to I keep us happy??
In reality, it’s only a max of three days in July she would have to take off… I would hope that there would be some pre-planning they could do to help her out if she lets everyone know a year in advance!
I just don’t know. I don’t want to make this unenjoyable…
Post # 5
I personally don’t think you should have in in August if you are going to be swamped with work. I am currently swamped with work right now due to FY end/problems etc and its making me super stressed out (my wedding is next Saturday!). Could you go for another month? Maybe June or Sept? Sorry you are going through this. Weddings are stressful enough! Good luck.
Post # 6
June is way too rainy in MN for outdoor weddings… and September won’t work because it mom is a teacher in New York and would have to be in class, plus travel to MN.
I guess what it comes down to is that there is never a GOOD time for everyone.