Post # 1
Now that I’ve bought my dress.. hell I’ve bought two.. I haven’t had any of my bridesmaids there.. I haven’t even asked them to be in my wedding, except for my Maid/Matron of Honor. And I live 10 hours away from all of them (that’s where our wedding is), and have dragged my mom everywhere but I just didn’t want to bother them either.
And I am easily persuaded so having all those opinions would of driven me crazy.. I feel bad that no one was there because that should be one of the fun things for all of us to do.. should I feel bad? Did anyone else not go with their bridesmaids?
Post # 3
I went completely on my own to a number of stores…selected my shortlist and then took my mum back only.
I didnt take my bridesmaids for the exact same reason – I am easily persuaded.
Plus, I did email them a few pics of the dresses i liked (internet photos, not me in the dresses) and they all came back very negative, saying the style will date and is not flattering!
That was only with one dress – so I can imagine how cricitcal they would be in the store, and I just dont think dress shopping should be like that.
It should be stress free and whilst you dont want you girlfriends telling you, you look wonderful when the dress is not flattering, having too many opinions just leaves you more confused!
I say go on your own! It is easy going by yourself because you can make up your mind…then perhaps take one other person to show your shortlists?
Post # 4
i did one trip with my girls and it wasnt what i thought it would be to be honest. they were more worried about there dresses and seemed like they had other places they wanted to be. they know me but not the same way my mom does. they were pulling dresses that i would not be caught dead in. stuff that is way more there style and not what i said i had wanted. i dont know, for me it just wasnt what i had wanted in the whole shopping experience with my girls.
i went with my mom and i loved it. it was such a great moment for us to share and i wouldnt trade if for the world. my mom was honest with me about what looked good and what didnt and the second i walkedo out of the room in my dress she started crying. i knew if i got that reaction from my mom, that my gut feeling that it was the dress was it.
Post # 5
I’ve gone looking with 2 of my BMs. I enjoyed their opinions, they pointed out some things that I may not have noticed- so that was good, and we had a good laugh at some of the more ill-fitting dresses, but ultimately, I will pick my dress on my own.
I dont’ think you should feel bad at all! Plenty of people go on their own for exactly the same reasons you state: they are easily persuaded and the opinions would have driven them crazy. Also, you said they live 10 hours from you – if I were your Bridesmaid or Best Man I woudl have said “thank you!” for not making me drive 10 hours! If you want to do something special for them, maybe your mom could take a few pictures of you in your dress and you could email it to them as a “will you be my BM/surprise dress reveal”?
Post # 6
I’ve already designed my own dress. I’ve modeled in so many wedding fashion shows that I already know what I want. The only reason I will be going dress shopping is to make sure I’ve designed it right on my head. I will be taking maaaaaybe three people with me at most. My mom, my Maid/Matron of Honor and a Bridesmaid or Best Man. And the only reason I’m tking those three is because they would kick my butt if I didn’t.
Post # 7
all but one of my girls live in a different state. so i went with one of my bms and another friend. i was planning on going dress shopping in california when i was back home for my bro’s wedding but i had already purchased two dresses.
i didn’t feel like they missed out because we did the whole dress shopping thing with my sis in law when none of her girls were able to go.
Post # 8
You don’t need to feel bad. I went once with my FI’s sister. Once alone and twice with my mom. To my surprise, I enjoyed the visits with my mom the most. It is nice to have a soundboard because after a while, they all looked pretty and I needed someone to tell me yay or nay. I agree that mothers usually know best and as much as I get along with my BM’s, I know we don’t have similar tastes. But, I also think going alone was a great thing. It was such a calm experience!
Post # 9
My mom came with me and that was it. It was like my dress was our little secret until the morning of the wedding.
Honestly, I’m one of those people who would have ignored anything my BMs said anyway; I know what I like and I go for it.
Post # 10
I actually went shopping up there (my mom lives there too.. I grew up there).. a good amount.
Thanks for the advice!
Post # 11
I went shopping with my bridesmaids a few times, but honestly it was so overwhelming… On the day I found my dress it was just me and my momma. I wouldn’t have had it any other way. 🙂
Post # 12
When I got my dress I went with my mom and my daughter who is 4 but was 3 at the time. It’was a special bonding time for us. Plus I really didnt want everyone giving me their opinions on my dress because honestly, I don’t care if anyone, likes my dress or not because I love it!! On another note my moh lives in another state, so does one of my bridesmaids.
Post # 13
@TopazWedding: I went with just my mom and wouldn’t have done it any other way. I have seen too many ‘say yes to the dress’ episodes with a huge entourage and 20 opinions – looks horrible! The less opinions the better (and that applies to ALL wedding plans!)
Post # 14
I’m not easily persuaded and don’t give a hell or 2 about what y’all think of me in my dress. But I still didn’t want a crowd. I took my mom and only her. It was a bonding moment and made her feel special.
I did however allow the maids come for my fitting.
Post # 15
@mrsWtobe: your wedding date is my birthday:) yay for us! i’ll have a drink to celebrate for you. 🙂 haha.
Post # 16
I went with my Maid/Matron of Honor to try on dresses and we actually made a day out of it and had lunch. I mainly did it though to see what type of style looked right on me since I plan on ordering online.