(Closed) Picking the bridal party

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

To be honest, I probably wouldn’t even have a Maid/Matron of Honor.  The situation sounds too complicated to make it work without someone feeling slighted.  I get that you want to honor your friend(s), as well as have one of them take the lead in certain tasks.  But, it just sounds like potential drama.  I’d ask each of them to take on certain roles, for instance, one do the shower preparations, the other can do the bachelorette party. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

If you are going to pick one, I would say Melody because you say she is where the wedding will be, and mostly because you can really count on her.  🙂

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My personal opinion is that you shouldn’t base your Maid/Matron of Honor decision on who is more likely to do the most stuff for you.  You should base it on, who you actually WANT.  And if you can’t choose between them, then I just wouldn’t have an Maid/Matron of Honor at all.  Good luck!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

What if you have both as your MOH’s. If they mean that much to you and it’s too tough to choose, I would say choose both of them. Who’s to say that you have to have only one MOH?

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m having 2 moh and he is having 2 bm. I may have another bridesmaid but that is it. We chose to have 2 each because 1 we are already married and it’s really not that important 2 because it’s those 4 people that support us the best.

Mine are my two best friends Cheryl and Tara. His are his two best friends Jared, who is also his very close in age brother(1y1m1d apart) and Kevin. What makes the better is Tara is Jared’s girlfriend and Cheryl is Kevin’s girlfriend.  The possible bridesmaid is my friend Terra. We’re not as close as we once were but we’re still close. Kids and lives and all that keep us from being as close as we once were. Terra was my witness when we tied the knot at the courthouse. Kevin was his.

I had 6 bridesmaids at my first wedding. All of who were close to me then. I didn’t want a bunch of people standing with us. Just those that were our closest and most dearest friends.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

I think you either have them both as Maid/Matron of Honor, or don’t designate anyone Maid/Matron of Honor. I didn’t designate a Maid/Matron of Honor (no way I was choosing between two sisters) and stuff still got done! It would save a lot of stress in the long run to decide right now you’re not going to worry about it 🙂

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