Post # 62
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Bumble bee
I showed him this ring and I emphasized the tapered band that comes up to meet the diamond on the sides and how high the diamond sits….
And this is what I got…
Funny enough, he originally had it made in white gold and then we were talking and I mentioned that I need the band to be platinum due to a metal allergy, clearly something I had said in the past, and so he had them reset it. I saw photos of the white gold setting and the band was AWFUL- enormous prongs. My ring is EXACTLY what I wanted in every way!
Post # 63
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Bumble bee
@MissCalifornia: A friend of mine wanted a specific ring and then her Fiance went into the jeweler and picked something completely different and she LOVES it and is super grateful she didn’t get what she originally wanted. I shared this with my Fiance and he looked at me and said it was way too scary to do that, we’ve known one another for 7 + years and I’m the pickiest person in the world.
Post # 64
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Helper bee
@MissCalifornia: I’m waiting/sort of waiting. We’ve bought the ring, but I’m waiting for it to be given to me. Basically, I gave him a list of exact rings. Additionally, I told him what I did not want. If you two have an open relationship as far as communication, it should be fairly simple to lay out what you like!
Post # 65
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Busy bee
I just came out and told him what I expected when he kept professing how much he loves/wants me to be in his life forever.
Post # 66
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Busy bee
Anardana: In the words of my husband
“If your girlfriend is willing to tell you exactly what ring she wants you have found a cheat code to doing something important right, those don’t come along every day! To reject her suggestions is like saying ‘nope I know best’ and is risky, if you get it right fair enough but if you get it wrong? You’ve bought her the wrong ring AND you didn’t listen to her! If she’s giving you a chance to start married life doing something exactly right? Take it”
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LOL, exactly! You’ve got a SMART man there, Anardana. My Fiance concurs.
Post # 67
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Helper bee
He asked me what I wanted in an engagement ring, and I told him.
I knew I wanted something art deco or art deco inspired— so I found pictures of rings I liked online, and sent them to him for reference. We talked about budget and specs, and having the option of custom rings, if we couldn’t find ‘the one.’
He emailed me pictures of simular rings he found and I fell in LOVE with one. Little did I know at the time, that it’s the ring he chose.
I’m waiting for the official proposal–but when I asked him for little hints about the ring– he said, “after telling me how in love you are with a certain one, do you think I would consider anything else?” and “stop asking, let it happen…”
*squeels with delight* It makes my heart flutter…now I’m just waiting, patiently. 🙂
Post # 68
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Busy bee
My Fiance asked me one night if I wanted to go ring shopping, and I said “Sure!” After about an hour at the jewelry store, I picked out what I wanted and it came home with us (the ring fit perfectly, too). When I asked my Fiance why he didn’t want to go himself, he said that he was too afraid he’d get me something I wouldn’t like, and he wanted to make sure I’d be totally happy with it.
If you’re not going to purchase it together, I would show him a few pictures of what you want and explain what you like about it. Hopefully between the pictures and the explanations, it will help him out.
Post # 69
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Helper bee
When we talked about getting engaged, I told him that I would rather be proposed to without a ring so we could look at them together. So, that’s what he did! I ended up finding my set about a month later after he proposed. The whole element of surprise with the ring just wasn’t important to us.
Post # 70
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Sugar bee
So after reading all these responses and thinking it through, I went to my e-ring pinboard and selected my favourite 3 rings and moved them to a secondary pinboard that I created to show him when the time comes. I did as someone suggested and explained in the comment box what I like and any changes I’d make. In the description for the pinboard, I wrote a blurb outlining what I absolutely DO NOT want out of a ring.
When the time comes, I’m going to give him the password to the board and then he’ll know. All 3 rings would be absolutely perfect, I didn’t bother ranking them that way I can’t create disappointment in my mind.
The biggest reason I’m so hyper about this is that I was engaged once before and not only did I pick the ring out but I bought it – my ex-FI had zero input and didn’t care. It left a horrible taste in my mouth, and this time I want things to be different (not that they already aren’t 100% different).
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