Picking up your child

posted 4 weeks ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

Well, I agree that anyone in control of a moving vehicle should have their phone put away. And parents entering the building should be subject to the same dress code their children are (sans uniform ).

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I’m a teacher and the number of times I’ve seen mom or auntie’s butt cheeks, cleavage, or midriff is alarming. The same goes for seeing dad’s boxers. I don’t think it’s too much to ask those entering the school to maintain a similar level of dress that is expected of the students. As far as the phone goes, she can ask them to put it away but I’m not sure how to enforce it without the police stepping in and giving tickets for operating car while on the phone.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

I agree with the principal, if you are in the school then you should follow the same dress code. If a parent can’t stsy off their phone while they pick up their children that’s atrocious in my mind

Post # 5
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Helper bee

No. Adults get to dress how they want, so long as they aren’t literally violating state law (I.e. nude.) And you only get to control of people are on their phone if they are driving, not walking.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

I appreciate the encouragement that parents be conscientious about what they are wearing to school grounds and being present so they can pick up their child safely, but what is that principle going to do if I arrive in a “belly” top? Not give me my kid?

Also, I work out and I’m feeling my belly for as long as it looks good. If I want to wear a crop top to drop off or pick up my child, I will. The end.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

These are common sense, respectful ways of picking up your children or just being at a professional place. You wouldn’t wear a belly shirt at work (unless you are a stripper so that’s fine) so why wear it at an educational facility? And it’s just rude to be on your phone when you’re dealing with other people in person. Reminds me of that news story a few weeks back where the principal had to introduce a dress code for the parents/guardians coming into schools in their pyjamas, night shirts, etc. Where did common decency go? Why is it ok to go out in your pyjamas, looking all disheveled? People need to be held to a higher standard when around children.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

Is this the same principal who also banned parents from arriving at school wearing headwear that’s much more common among Black women than other races?  I remember reading about that, and I think “belly” shirts were also one of her things.

It’s interesting that belly shirts (something worn only by women) are specifically banned.  I wonder how she’d feel about men arriving shirtless on a hot day.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

xiexie :  I’m pretty sure (100% actually ) that shoes, shirts and pants/shorts/skirts etc are a must when going into a school. Hot weather or not. Imagine sweaty shirtless people going into schools to pick up kids? Scary thought and could be very well okay in the future seeing how standards keep dropping.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

Parents are adults and should be treated as such. Schools don’t get to police what parents wear in pick-up line. I don’t have children yet but if I was leaving the gym in a crop top or had just rolled out of bed from grave shift wearing pajamas you better believe I’m gonna wear what I want. There’s so much more to focus on than what parents wear in pick-up line. Now as a parent if I had a meeting with a teacher I may dress more conservatively and have a more “put-together” look but for your average day I’m gonna wear what I want and they can get over it.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

lifeisbeeutiful :  My husband is a teacher and I’ve seen sweaty, shirtless guys pop in to the school to pick up their kids before.  Never thought anything of it, to be honest.  It’s a rural area and a lot of these guys spend all day working outdoors then walk 30 minutes or more through hot, muggy conditions to pick up their children.  I’d expect them to be as comfortable as possible.

I’m not in the US though.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

In my state, anyone who enters must be buzzed in and pass through the office. For security, all doors are locked at all times. So while they cannot deny someone their child, they CAN stop them from entering the rest of the building. And in some cases, I think they should. No one at school needs to know how “hot” you think you are by having your felly or your bum hanging out of clothes. Likewise, no one needs to see your underwear or bare sides (in those horrible tank tops that have armholes to the waist) if you’re a man. These things are in violation of dress code for students, and I believe that anyone who enters the building should be held to the same standard. Make them wait in the office for their child.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Uh, no. I’m an adult. I don’t have to subject myself to the same rules as a child. It’s one of the benefits of growing up. There aren’t many.

Post # 14
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Busy bee

personaperson :  how come a workplace can dictate how adults dress? I certainly couldn’t go to work wearing a belly shirt, even though its not against the law. 

If i go to a wedding with a formal dress code I will dress formally because its appropriate and respectful.

If I go to a restaurant with a formal dress code and I wear a belly shirt and shorts with my butt hanging out, I think they have the right to refuse service to me.

For that reason I think parents should have to abide by the dress code of the school. Adults have to follow rules sometimes too. Not just children.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee

Yeah, no. I’m an adult woman and am capable of dressing myself. I take no issue with not “allowing” phones inside of the school itself, however we can’t dictate to anyone what they can/cannot do outside of the building. 

Dress codes in general are horribly sexist and oppressive things, quite honestly. All this does is put women (who are typically expected, even in 2019, to do the majority of the child-reading) under more scruitiny. The codes themselves are usually geared more towards the female population than the male one. Not just in schools but also in the workplace. It’s bad enough that we have to have judgement passed on our clothing choices through our own schooling and work environments… now we are somehow obligated to follow the outdated “rules” of an elementary school? There’s no way in hell I would allow my child’s school to dictate what I’m allowed to wear, or imply that my choice of clothing has any impact on what kind of mother I am. 

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