(Closed) Picking your own ring?

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
4893 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I chose my own! Originally, I was going to pick a few that I liked and let him pick between them, (I was really picky about one specific detail) but I fell in love with one and had to have it. He didn’t mind. He proposed the day it came in. 

Post # 4
9649 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

I chose it, I knew the exact ring I wanted, we only looked at one, I only tried on the one, and he bought it the following week ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
8042 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

I chose it, but the process involved me changing my mind like 50x until I assured my Fiance that I found the perfect ring, and then we ordered it lol. I am happy with my choice and he likes it too!

Post # 6
611 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I got a promise ring, a 1/10th of a princess cut diamond in 14kt white gold

got upgraded for my graduation to 

0.5carat halo with pave band

got upgraded for christmas to

1.0 carat halo with pave band

I came along every time! I’m pretty sure its no longer a promise ring by now lol.

You might want to have it custom made too! Something you’re gonna wear everyday for the rest of your life will have you looking and sizing your ring up and down all the time, might as well be perfect and exactly to your liking.

Post # 7
1367 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

He took me into a few stores but I picked the one I wanted.

Post # 8
1237 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2019

I sent him a link to my ring in an Etsy store and said,”I want that one.” He wanted me to pick exactly what I wanted because I am picky and I’ll be wearing it forever. To be fair, he picked out his own wedding ring already, lol.

I would make sure you equally like all the ones you send him and not put on the pressure for him to just ‘know’ what you want, because it could be wrong! My Fiance told me what he would have picked and let me just say that I’m glad I told him exactly what I wanted.

Here is a pic of my ring for reference:


Post # 9
2542 posts
Sugar bee

We went shopping together several times until we found one I loved. He got information on it and went back to get it for me ๐Ÿ™‚

We got married last June, here is a pic of my set and his ring


Post # 10
346 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I chose it but I didn’t realize at the time. We decided to go look at rings so Fiance could get an idea of what I liked. We only went to one store and I tried on about 10 rings. I really loved one but was pretty set on looking at other places and because I didn’t want to pressure Fiance. I figured whatever he would get me, I would love anyways. 

Little did I know, while I was shopping in Victoria Secret the next day (FI never goes in with me) he went back and bought the ring since the jeweler was right up the street. I was shocked when he proposed because I thought we were still going to look for more! It was perfect though, the ring is exactly what I wanted and I love it. 

I will say though that it was his idea for me to look with him. Had he chosen something on his own, I am sure I would love it as well. 

Post # 11
6359 posts
Bee Keeper

It was really important to me that he took the lead on it.

At first he would bring me ring shopping to get a sense of my taste (his idea, and he was always the one taking the lead on that) but in the end we couldn’t find any designs either of us really loved, so he designed my ring (worked with a jeweler), and occassionally gave me a peek of the work-in-progress and got my opinion.

The result: My dream ring! I’m sure I could have never have chosen, or designed myself, something that I would find as beautiful and meaningful. To me this wasn’t about me choosing something for myself, which I pretty much always do with everything else I wear. I really wanted to look down and see a symbol of him, his love, his personality, and us coming together.

Post # 13
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Mr TTR and I dated for about 6 Years, and had talked Marriage before (just in passing)… We had both been married before, and had gone thru horrible divorces, so to say we had “trust issues” was an understatement

It took me a long long time to ever think that Marriage was a possibility… but at 6 years I felt I was ready, so just before our Dating Anniversary in 2011, I told him I was ready and shared the current view of My LIFE PLAN (I wanted to be married before the end of 2012)

He was on board, but still teased me and said, he’d lol… “take it under consideration”

Meaning, “like a guy” he wanted to develop his own plan for the Proposal.  No problemo, he knew my LIFE PLAN and wishes.  I trusted him, so I never doubted it would happen, but I have to admit he threw me off a few times as a Waiting Bee, and did end up surprising me (all good)

He proposed while we were on vacation at Easter, without a ring.

As we’d both been married before, and I didn’t want ANYTHING that would remotely of my first ERing / Engagement, we agreed to shop together.  And so it went.

I couldn’t be happier with the process or the outcome.

We found a ring we BOTH Love soooo much that we often refer to it as OUR ERing.

PHOTO – ERing taken day we picked it up

I highly recommend making ring shopping a together thing if at all possible.  In the very least I truly believe a gal should have some input into the process.  So DEFINITELY go out and try on rings… cause that is the best way to find out what you like.  What you see in a pic and on your hand can be a very different experience.  Just like not every piece of clothing suits every “body”… so it is true that not every ring suits every finger / hand.  What you think you like before you go shopping and after can be very different (hence the reason you see posts on WBee from women who find out they don’t love the ring once they have it in hand… and the downside is ERings cost a lot of money, and in some scenarios are not returnable / exchangeable.. and like a car, they drop substantially in value as a second hand item the second you take them off the lot)

Be smart…

Do your homework, reading & research… including trying on rings.

Hope this helps,


Post # 14
458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I never thought that picking my own ring was a possibility until I came onto WeddingBee. I knew I didn’t want a diamond, and discovered Moissy (also through the Bee). I just asked him if I could be a part of the process of picking out a ring, and he came out and said he wanted me to pick my ring out myself. I’m waiting for it, but he knows which one I would love ๐Ÿ™‚ He was happy I asked because he was afraid I would hate what he would potentially pick out, and he wants me to love it.

Post # 15
2808 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

i chose the setting. the stone was an heirloom from his family. it took months to find the perfect setting. but when i saw it, i knew it was the one.

Post # 16
1130 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@SimplyEuphoric:  FH chose the ring himself. I had never actually told him what I wanted or anything, but he knows that I’m big on simplicity when it comes to jewellery (I don’t wear a lot of it) and don’t like things that are too flashy (i.e. Halo rings are too much for me).

He did quite well ๐Ÿ™‚

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