(Closed) Picky Eaters

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1104 posts
Bumble bee

No, it’s not just you. I don’t have much time for picky eaters like that. It would be nice if every wedding meal could cater for everyone’s taste, but that is basically impossible. They should try everything that’s there and if they don’t like it, there’s always bread (that’s what my mother always said). They have lots of notice and would be able to plan to eat beforehand/afterward if they are worried.

Could your Future Mother-In-Law have the salmon starter followed by vegetarian soup? With bread, of course 🙂

Post # 4
53 posts
Worker bee

some people just like to moan!

After chicken (as it is relatively cheap) lamb would be the most popular meat in New Zealand (for obvious reasons!)

stick with what you’ve got, it sounds really good


I’d be more worried about people not liking salmon than lamb, although that is in NZ

Post # 6
873 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I’m a lacto-ovo vegetarian with a degree in Religious Studies…so when I started planning our wedding menu I was really really worried about little things – is there gletain in anything? is it pork based or horse based or a vegetarian alternative? Is there a drop of rum in the entire 3-layer cake? If so, will my very orthodox Muslim cousins be able to eat it?  Is shrimp allowed in all schools of Islamic thought? etc etc….

Then…I calmed down.  I realized that as a veggie, people rarely think about me when planning meals, but I do just fine and always figure out on my own what I can eat and what I can’t.  Therefore, I just need to pick delicious food…and a variety of food and leave people to determine on their own what they won’t/can’t eat.  Especially if you have a very large wedding or very picky people, you can’t please everyone. 

Post # 7
722 posts
Busy bee

Seriously, people should grow up. As a guest you should eat what you are served. If you are a really picky eater you should eat something before you go out.

Post # 8
2237 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@cakegal: I second that!

Don’t worry about other people, it’s your wedding, have the food that you want!

Post # 10
1995 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We had some food at our wedding that I knew some of my family wouldn’t enjoy.  Luckily they never complained and let us do our thing – you’ll never know what people a few tables away do or don’t eat!  I tried to pick food that were “us” but also provide appetizers that I knew everyone would like.  I think its all about balance – with a large group you want to make sure everyone is fed and happy – the last thing you want is hungry wedding guests at the end of the night.  Maybe you could add to the menu, add some table appetizers (cheese, crackers to munch on after cockatil hour) or talk to your caterer about your issues.

Post # 11
2775 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

It is unreasonable to expect the bride & groom to accommodate individual food preferences.  Picky eaters should plan to eat something before or after the wedding if they don’t like what’s on offer.  As you said, it’s not a restaurant.

Post # 12
132 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m a picky eater (I don’t eat fruits or vegetables), and I’ve gone hungry at many weddings.  It’s not the bride and groom’s fault, and I don’t expect anyone to cater to my preferences.

Serve what you want!  If they’re hungry enough, they’ll find something to eat! 

Post # 13
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

hmmm to be totally honest i’m on the fence about this one. I am a super super picky eater so there are lots of times where there is nothing i want to eat a place and i deal. and for the most part i’m fine with it because being a picky eater is my problem, not my hosts. so in theory, i agree with you 100%


it seems to me like the options you’ve picked aren’t normal stuff that most people would like and its just the picky eaters that won’t like it… it seems like you’ve picked kind of specialized stuff that there is a good chance a LOT of people won’t like. So that is where i feel like maybe you should’ve been more accommodating. If you want to have lamb, thats cool– have lamb. But a french onion tart seems kind of out there in terms of food most people would like. Why not do a pasta vegetarian option… that is something that most people like. or do the tart and then a chicken. I just think that you picked pretty fancy/specialized food and so you can’t be taht surprised that you’re having issues with it. 


sorry… just my opinion. 

Post # 14
3219 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

@CorgiTales: I totally agree!

I am not a picky eater, IMO the food you guys picked is not something the majority of people would eat. When selecting our food we picked food that we knew EVERYONE would like.

Post # 15
2821 posts
Sugar bee

It’s not like you’re serving monkey brains and beetle dung! 

I don’t understand picky eaters, do they not go to eat at friend’s or family’s houses, there’s only one main course there.  Or are there diets that limited?  It’s beyond me and definately not somewhere I’d budge.  You’re providing two delicious options and it’s really rude just to demand more soup, especially if she doesn’t like it.  That’s confusing, I guess she thinks she won’t be full but umm….that I really don’t have much sympathy for.  Bring a protein bar if you’ve got blood sugar to worry about. 

I donno, I’ve had times where there’s exotic meals served, some I haven’t loved, but it’s one freaking meal, what’s the big deal.

Post # 16
722 posts
Busy bee

I think what “normal people” eat varies by region, family, social group. The majority of my guests are very into gourmet food and would be very disappointed with chicken and veggie pasta. It would sort of be considered a cop-out.

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