Post # 1
So we don’t have kids yet but I’m curious as to what other people think about this.
My Mother-In-Law has decided that she is the family photographer. She bought one of those large expensive cameras and literally has it out at every moment.
It stems from her and my SIL thinking SIL is a model. They do “photo shoots” together and whatnot and post thousands of pictures of SIL on her Facebook page. Ok, whatever its her page, she can do what she wants.
But now Mother-In-Law has started posting every family event on SILs page, including kids birthday parties of her nephews children (DHs cousins kids) and even some of one of their delivery rooms where the new mom wasn’t smiling and looks downright pissed. SIL is not friends with all the cousins on Facebook and doesn’t tag the parents in the pictures. There are now literally thousands of kids pictures on her page.
As a side note, the vast majority of the pictures are candid, people in action or SIL posing with the kids or SIL near them. There are very few with the parents and virtually none of the mothers ( who are not related to Mother-In-Law, the moms are MIL’s sister’s DILs).
As a parent, I don’t think I would be ok with someone taking all of those and posting them online without me knowing. I don’t say anything because it’s none of my business but I’m wondering what other people think.
Not that this matters but Mother-In-Law is extremely annoying with the camera. To the point that people tell her to put it away because they don’t want to end up on Facebook. We had to specifically remind her on christmas morning that we didn’t want to be on Facebook. She ended up posting cropped pictures of us.
And yes, this is Mother-In-Law posting on SIL Facebook account.
Would you want to know those pictures are out there? Do you think it’s a bit weird?
Post # 3
While I always try and be respectful by asking permission before posting photos of others on Facebook, others are not the same. Technically whoever takes the picture owns them and has the right to do what they want with it. In this day and age it’s impossible to avoid your picture showing up online somewhere. Its a little freaky but I try not to worry about it because unfortunately there’s not a whole lot you can do about it
Post # 4
True as PP said that whoever took the photo has the rights, BUT we all have the right to not be photographed as well. These women can always request that Facebook take down the photos if Mother-In-Law won’t but I think it takes a while, and either way she shouldn’t be doing this.
I would 100% not be okay with this. We have our first baby on the way and I’ve already warned relatives that I don’t want pics of my baby on facebook, and if it became an issue I’d tell the person doing it that they are no longer allowed to see my kids unless they leave the camera in their purse/car.
Post # 5
If I truly had an issue, I would say, “I dont mind you taking the photos, but please don’t post any to facebook unless I choose them to be posted.” Especially in todays world, do you really want any weirdo who can work internet fairly well be able to look at tons of pictures you didn’t choose, especially of your children. For all I know your Mother-In-Law could have friends on facebook that you don’t know, or maybe that she hardly even knows. People apparently get stalked more than you think, and your Mother-In-Law seems like she makes it easier for anyone who would try.
Post # 6
the crazy part is these people don’t know their kids pictures are on Facebook and its not MILs Facebook, it’s my SIL. And she has had a few instances of creeps calling and texting her because she posts all of her information on there (like a moron) and pictures of herself in suggestive poses and surprise, surprise, creepers start contacting her.
Darling Husband and I have always thought it was super weird and I was wondering if we are totally in left field thinking this.
Post # 7
I really wouldn’t care. I mean unless it’s a pedophile or something. Or my son is naked.
I go to many birthday parties/etc and he ends up being on other peoples facebooks in the background of photos, and the same when I take pictures. Once your kid is 2+ and going to like 2 birthday parties a week at times, it’s going to be really hard to tell people not to take photos of them. They are going to be in the background, and people are going to upload the pictures to facebook or whatever. I don’t know how you’re going to get around that.
I can’t imagine anyone around here saying “don’t take photos of my kids” people would think they were crazy. I would laugh and be like “oookay..” It would be really awkward to have little timmy go stand off to the side so you could get photos of the family/friends/party/etc.
Post # 8
Thinking about it more, I guess I hate it when people take photos of me. I had photos taken in the delivery room, that I wasn’t ready for. But It doesn’t bother me if it’s my son, he’s not insecure, and he always look adorbs, I like seeing photos of him.
I’m smiling, but there’s rage in my eyes.
Post # 9
@PinkPinstripes: My nephew arrived last week, and while I want to show the world how cute he is, it’s not my place. My sister hasn’t put pictures of him online, and it’s not my right to do it. I once asked my friend for permission to put up a photo of me and her dog! I don’t have many photos of me and my SO on Facebook, because he hates photos (he doesn’t have a Facebook profile). The ones that are on there, I asked his permission first! I think people taking photos need to be respectful when posting pictures online – ask permission, especially when it’s photos of their children. Some parents may not want photos of their kids on there, and people need to respect that.