Post # 1
We’re having a small courthouse ceremony this year. It’ll be on a Friday morning, and we’ll be getting lunch afterwards and then heading to the airport to catch an international flight for our honeymoon. The airport isn’t terribly far from the courthouse, but we don’t want to be rushed that morning getting married, having lunch/drinks, and getting to the airport on time to get through security, customs, and stock up on snacks for our long overnight flight.
We found a photographer that we LOVE. Their photos, reviews, and personalities are perfect. BUT, they don’t do weddings on fridays because they are constantly traveling for weekend weddings. Our first thought was having pictures done with a different photographer the morning of the ceremony (during and after), but there’s just so much uncertainty about how long we’ll have to get pictures taken…Fridays are the busiest at the courthouse so there’s no way of knowing how long we’ll be waiting to get in.
The only solution I’ve come up with is to get dressed up in our attire, and get pictures taken the week before. The photographer we love would charge about $550 for 1.5 hours and we’d get all edited photos digitally. We’d likely get them done at my parents’ house since they live on a few acres and it’ll be beautiful that time of year.
Is this weird though? We really want pictures of the two of us, but since we’re not doing the traditional route and have a flight to catch I’m not sure how to make it work the day of the ceremony. My dad has a professional camera, so I figured he could take pictures during the ceremony and after while we’re signing paperwork. We’re probably just going to invite parents/grandparents so there won’t be a need for big group pictures…we can always get someone to snap one of all of us together (6 people, at the most).
Post # 2
It depends on what is important to you. For me, getting dressed up the week before and faking it wouldn’t cut it. I want our wedding pictures to be our wedding pictures. Ultimatly, you’ll always know those pictures weren’t taken on your wedding day. They’d be more like engagement pictures than wedding pictures. I would keep looking for someone who is available to take pictures at your wedding. Or if you *really* love them – could you move the ceremony to Thursday? The day before – then you’d have absolutly no rush since your flight wouldn’t be until the next day.
Post # 3
My celebrant did this and highly recommended it! She vlogged about it here: http://juliascelebrancyservices.com.au/blog/2015/10/27/our-pre-wedding-photo-shoot-episode-16-the-celebride-series
I would still hire another photographer to shoot the actual ceremony and take family photos afterwards though, as it would take a lot of pressure off your dad. I’m a photographer and I can tell you it sucks when friends/family ask you to bring your camera to events haha. I’m sure your dad would rather just enjoy the day without that responsibility.
Post # 4
My husband has a side of Mormons in his family, mostly cousins (though he was never raised as one and we don’t really practice anything).
They seem to do their photos well in advance because a lot of their guests aren’t allowed in the temple and their reception is much different from the typical.
I don’t think it’s weird at all. You want keepsakes of this moment, and you don’t want them to be rushed or with you smiling through your teeth worrying about making your flight. The only suggestion I have is not to post them until the day of, one of my hubby’s family members did this on facebook.
It’s 2017, being traditional or untraditional is up to you! No wrong or right way with either choice. It sounds like you really want this, so go for it!
Edit: I agree with the bee above, still have a photographer for the day of. There are always beautiful candids you’ll want with loved ones.
Post # 5
I like the idea of photos at another time but I dont ‘get’ the way wedding photos are popularly done as people may have noticed
growing up it was always my plan but I would do it afterwards as I always wanted the dress to be seen for the first time on the wedding day but I like wedding portraits (old school photo studio style but I love 20s/30s weddings)
I think it would be so much better not rushing or leaving people waiting round and you could come up with cooler images in better or more controlled locations but thats just me
added + is not being wedding day photos often means cheaper too
Post # 6
Thanks for all of the advice! We’re spending two weeks in Ireland/Scotland. The other idea we had was to look now and find a photographer over there that could do some pictures of us while we’re on our honeymoon. This is probably the least likely of our ideas to happen, but we love the idea of getting pictures taken near an old castle or some beautiful scenery on our honeymoon. lol
Post # 7
If this is just a simple courthouse wedding and not a grand affair I think a First Look is a good idea. Maybe my idea of courthouse weddings is all wrong, but you don’t walk down an aisle or anything, do you? So there’d be no real grand entrance for you to show off this dress…? I imagaine your guests will enter and you’ll both be there waiting? If that’s the case (again, I could be wrong with the setup) then stick with the photographer you love and let the photoshoot be the way you show off the dress?
I think you just need to determine what’s important to you. If pictures have a high priority then definitely do the shoot a week ahead of time. If it’s the specialness of being a bride in your dress on the day of then don’t and have them taken the day of.
It’ll also be another chance for you to wear your dress!
Post # 8
butterfly19882 : My cousin did this. Her wedding is October but she and then fiance took their wedding photos 2 months earlier (with a different dress…the photographer had dresses in stock or something like that that brides can wear if they choose to pre-shoot ) in August. I asked her why and she said to get the posed couple’s portraits out of the way bec they will likely not have enough time on their actual wedding day. They would like to alot time to take pics with other people. I thought it was a bit strange but it worked out for her.
Post # 9
Pre-wedding photo shoots are very common overseas but I would still want photos on the big day.
Post # 10
I was a bridesmaid in a friend’s wedding in China and the entire wedding party met up the week before the wedding and took all the posed photos then. It was relaxed and fun and everyone got to dress up twice.
I agree about getting someone to shoot the candids for the actual ceremony, your dad should get to see it “live” rather than through his lens.
Post # 11
Do them when you get back from your honeymoon.
Post # 12
lots of people do this, they just dont tell people about it. I love the idea. Personally, i’ve heard more stories where people tried to do it all on the wedding day because they thought it wouldn’t count or be less meaningfull if they did them another time, and really regretted it.
You know what’s best for you, doing wedding portraits before hand or after is very common and it works very well. I say go for it.
is there anyone that could take pictures with your dad’s camera so your dad could just watch the wedding? that may work out better, may be what your dad prefers as well.
Post # 13
My stance is, “Whatever floats your boat.”