Post # 1
Just walked out of a Claire’s where two parents were trying to keep a screaming 2 or 3 year old calm while the associate was attempting to pierce the second of the little one’s ear. The baby was wiggling around, trying to get away, looking desperately up at her parents. She couldn’t say no, that hurts, stop. She was terrified. I almost screamed at them “That’s f*cking child abuse!” and the associate at the counter seemed to agree with me.
What’s your take Bees? Child abuse or no?
Post # 2
Umm, no. I don’t think piercing a child’s ears is child abuse.
Post # 3
I got my ears pierced when I was around that age too, I remember getting pierced then getting fever straight away… waited for the doctors and one of the earring fell off… so I need to go back and get one of the ears pierced again lol.
I cried buckets but I’m glad my parents did it when I was smaller tho cos then I didn’t have to endure it when I was older. But that could just be me.
Post # 4
I don’t think so, but I wouldn’t do it—I’ve always been really glad that my parents didn’t and waited until I was old enough to decide for myself if it was something I wanted.
Post # 5
Yup. It’s cruel as well as tacky.
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK
My best friend is Indian and she took her daughter to have her ears pierced at 18 months old. It’s the norm within her culture. She told me baby cried for an hour after and was a bit grumpy for a few days. I was kinda shocked. I wouldn’t do it but I don’t think it is child abuse.
Post # 7
It’s not something I would personally do, but I don’t consider it abuse either.
Post # 8
I don’t think it’s child abuse. just morally wrong.
I think it’s long did those thing stay should be waited till the child is old enough to verbalize that desire and able to express if something is wrong.
Post # 9
I absolutely detest it but I don’t think it’s child abuse.
Post # 10
I don’t think it’s child abuse, but it’s definitely not something I’d do. Not only does the child have no say, but pierced ears are a pain to take care of when they’re fresh! Having to twist the studs, clean around the hole, etc. No thank you…
Post # 11
I absolutely despise it, just as I do infant circumcision. I think it’s an awful violation of another person’s bodily autonomy. Not sure I would define either as abuse, but I agree it could be debated. People who hit their kids (“spanking”) are personally my bigger concern, as far as the definition of abuse goes. Since ear piercing doesn’t lead to long term damage, it’s not really abuse.
Post # 12
It’s border line I think.
Youre deliberately causing unnecessary pain to a child who can’t say no.
I wasn’t allowed my ears pierced till I was 13, where I had the choice and could take care of them myself.
My daughter was 11 when we agreed. It was her choice and she was old enough to look after them
Post # 13
I get that it’s common in some cultures but I really dislike this practice. There is no compelling reason why a child should not be allowed to decide when she or he is old enough to know his or her own mind.
Post # 14
I don’t know that I would say it’s child abuse but I wouldn’t do it. It’s a choice a child can make when they are old enough to tell me it’s something they want. And I see no need to force it on a child before then. I think it’s important for children to understand that they are the ones who decide what happens with their own body and getting thier ears pierced before they can understand what’s going on and actually express whether or not they want it undermines that.
And I just don’t see the need. I don’t even have my own ears pierced. My kid can make that choice when they are responsible enough to take care of thier piercings themselves.
Post # 15
Um no it’s not. You should google what actual child abuse looks like.