(Closed) Piercing a baby's ears.. child abuse?

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 150
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641 posts
Busy bee

jackiebee :  Being unable to eat properly as a result of a cleft lip/palate is something that can result in failure to thrive.  Your statement is deliberately ignorant.  

Hoping to be an internet demagogue? Cool story.

Post # 151
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422 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

litttlemisslamb :  that’s not true. Cleft lip with no cleft palate and when it doesn’t extend to the nostrils can cause trouble latching as a baby but beyond that won’t always cause other issues. And if you don’t believe that, fine, what about other disorders that would cause a physical ‘deformity’ without health issues? I’m just genuinely curious about if any changes to a child’s body for cosmetic reasons are viewed as abuse or if there’s a line where you wouldn’t have to wait for the child to be old enough to give consent before consenting to a procedure for them.

Post # 152
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133 posts
Blushing bee

Having personally been born with a cleft lip AND gotten my ear pierced at a very young age, the two are incomparable. 

My cleft lip caused me to not be able to breastfeed, I couldn’t drink from normal bottles and my mother was forced to buy bottles that were ~$20 each. I went through three big surguries before I was even two years old. The life long trauma from being made fun of with a lip that wasn’t fixed would’ve been unimaginable, considering I went through a great deal of bullying in grade school even with one that was fixed extremely well. All of that along with the underdevelopment in my ear canals and nasal passages  

My mom knew she was going to get my ears pierced eventually anyways, so she got it done when i was six months old and had braces on my arms that forced my arms to be straight. As far as i’ve ever heard, they gave me a bottle and I didn’t even notice when my ears were being pierced, not that it really matters to me. (It was a few weeks after a lip surgery, i had the braces on so i didn’t pull the tube out of my nose so why not get my ears done while i can’t mess with those either? Never once in my life have I ever thought it was abuse or even comparable to my birth defect.) 

For the sake of not sounding ignorant, don’t compare apples to oranges.

Post # 153
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422 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

themrsnewbie :  sorry I wasn’t trying to conflate the two. I have a separate reply where I discussed my opinion on ear piercing. The question was more just a musing of an offshoot for those who were saying that any body modifications to a child who can’t consent are abuse. Where is the line, especially in cases where there aren’t other medical issues? I suppose my question aligns more with the circumcision conversation that was happening than the ear piercing.

Post # 155
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237 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Seriously how the hell are sexual assault and FGM in the same category as piercing a child’s ear?????????????

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