Pigeon (boy/girl) pairs: are you part of one, or did you have one?

posted 8 months ago in Parenting
Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

saratiara2 :  thank you! I love hearing that. I’m kind of unfamiliar with little boys (it was just me and my sister growing up, now she has a daughter, most of my close friends have little girls, etc) – so it took a bit to wrap my head around it! But I do keep hearing how sweet little boys are and how much they love their mamas, and I’m so excited ❤️ 

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I have a brother who is one-and-a-half years younger than me.  People thought we were twins growing up.  We played together all the time, and were very close.  My parents always got us the same toys so we could play together.  So we would both get a ninja turtle, or both get a plush toy, or both get a doll.  We loved to play littlest pet shop together, and video games, and ninja turtles, and my little ponies, and legos.  We became friends with eachother’s friends from school.  His best friend from first grade sang at my wedding.  A couple years ago he & his wife moved to the same neighborhood as my husband & me, and we get dinner together or go for walks together every week.

We eventually got another brother when I was 8 & my brother was 6.  We were not nearly as close with him as little kids, but we are very close now as adults.  Unfortunately that brother currently lives out of state, so we only see him a couple times per year.

Post # 20
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Both Fiance and I have two brothers. I’m much closer to my brothers that Fiance is to his.

Post # 22
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2018

Here’s one for you–my sister and I are less than 2 years apart and we do NOT get along.  From my persepctive, she was bossy, controlling, jealous and just plain mean for most of my life.  We’re now 40 and 42 and it is worse.  We barely have any contact at all except at family gatherings.  My mother doesn’t like it, but has accepted it.

 

So…you just never know.  Gender doesn’t mean anything.

Post # 23
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Blushing bee

My husband has two sisters and no brothers and he and his closest in age sister are very close, we hang out with her and her husband more than any of my husband’s friends. Also, anecdotally, I’ve found the men I’ve dated who have sisters to have been the best partners.

Post # 24
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i never heard this term before. i would think that age plays a bigger role than sex.  i know siblings of the same sex who are very close, siblings of the same sex who want nothing to do with each other, and everything in between.  i have a younger brother, he is disabled, so we have a bit of a different relationship. 

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

My only sibling is my brother, and we’re 15 months apart. We were close growing up, not best friends, but definitely close! We went through a rough teenage patch (like any and all siblings do) where we fought like cats and dogs, but as adults, we’re close again. I think it’s a benefit to having a sibling of the opposite sex, for everyone involved.

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I have 2 brothers, they are not close at all but I get along equally well with both of them and loved playing with them growing up. My Darling Husband is one of 4 boys and none of them are close at all. They see each other at Christmas and the odd Sunday dinner at their parents but otherwise make no effort  with each other. I think having one of each will really bring out the best of each other – I liked to roughhouse with my brothers and they would equally be happy to play house with me!

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I have an older brother and two older sisters and I get along the best with my brother. I think brother/sister relationships are just less complicated. Also, being the same sex doesn’t guarantee they will be closer. My husband has one brother and they are not close because they are completely different people and have completely different interests.

Post # 28
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Bee Keeper

saratiara2 :  We have one of each and are contemplating a third but not sure if it will ruin the dynamic of having one of each, because then one of them will have a same sex sibling which we have loved having for them.  I shouldn’t say ruin, but change how it’s been with having both of each

Post # 29
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Busy bee

I have a brother who is 3 years younger than me.  We have always been close.  He’s the funniest person I know and I genuinely enjoy spending time with him.  We never really went through a period where we didn’t get along – which I know a lot of same sex siblings do go through that.  I have a friend who still doesn’t get along with her sister at all.  Gender doesn’t determine closeness.  

Post # 30
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I am the middle of 3 girls and we have never gotten along.

I have a daughter and a son spaced about 2.5 years apart and they are best friends. They are extremely close and always have been.

I actually think different gendered children may be more likely to get along as there isn’t competition, they don’t need to try to set themselves apart. 

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