- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2015
I hope this all makes sense?
So, I currently live in Australia, I’m actually getting married in the UK next year, in the winter.
So, as I’m currently 10,000 miles away from my family/friends/wedding venue…things are getting quite difficult planning wise.
Background: I am an only child and am very close to my parents. They both work hard and holidays in Europe are their only real “treat” as it were. They have never been to Australia to visit me but decided, before the engagement, to come out in January to visit. FI’s parents are also hard working and also treat themselves to things once in awhile. FI’s Dad came out to see us in Australia last year (without his Mum) for a 2 weeks holiday, which was nice.
So, obviously both parents are delight that we have decided to get married. No doubt about that at all. Both parents agreed to put some money towards the wedding.
We actuallly managed to go back to the UK in July to see our family and do a spot of wedding planning. I was lucky enough to find and purchase the dress of my dreams whilst I was there. We’ve even picked and secured our venue. My FIL’s reaction to this was “It’s a bit early to find a dress isn’t it?” I have had lots of comments along these lines. I asked FI’s sister to be my bridesmaid and I have had not one offer of help. I am planning this wedding from 10,000 miles away – I NEED HELP! I’ve had to badger her to look for a bridesmaid dress….she’s clearly not interested…but I’m over that.
Now, Mum and Dad have decided to NOT to come out for their first visit to Australia in January, but to put the money they would have spent on the trip towards the wedding. That is a wonderful and sweet thought and a HUGE sacrifice for them. However, having agreed to put some money towards the wedding FI’s parents have then decided to come out to Australia in March which is probably going to cost them about 6,000 GBP. Which leaves me to think – are they actully going to be able to contribute to our wedding like they said they would?
I’m just a bit miffed that my parents are bending over backward to make this wedding happen for us and they are spending money on luxurius holidays to Australia. I know that our parents earn roughly about the same amount so It’s not like one side of the family can afford the wedding more than the other, I also know that that they are intitled to spend their hard erned cash on whatever they want. I just feel a little let down by them. My parents are not happy about this either but that’s a WHOLE other thread.