(Closed) Pill crushing the sex drive?

posted 9 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 17
Member
2495 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I don’t want to go on the Pill for this reason alone.  I’ve never been on any kind of BC though, so I feel like I *should* try it first, but don’t really want to, especially cause of the synthetic factor and the side effects…. ugh… I hate these kind of decisions.

Post # 18
Member
285 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Birth control sucks ๐Ÿ™  I also have a super low sex drive on the pill. I’ve tried several different pills, depo, nuvaring, IUD…ugh. Fiance and I have not used condoms for 4.5+ years now, though, so when we tried them again a few months ago he really didn’t like it as much. I know they have all sorts of “super sensitive” condoms… anyone have some that they would reccomend?

Post # 19
Member
13 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Same thing happened to me when I was on NuvaRing.  I went back to condoms and things are much better now! ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 20
Member
319 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’ve learned so much from this post, and know now it’s not just me! Fwwww!

My Future Sister-In-Law is a pharmacist and was saying that many woman actually have more of an adverse reaction to the low dose hormone pills and worse side effects. Don’t remember the reasoning why, because it got pretty technical, but I’m happy to read about these other more natural alternatives. Thanks ladies!

Post # 21
Member
4122 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Neele – If you start using a Fertility Awareness Method, you’ll only need the condom for about a week-10 days a month. We will be abstaining during that time frame, but most people use a barrier method.  The longer you practice and the more in tune with your body you are, the time frame will drop… obviously, in the start you want to be safe while you learn.

That’s the thing with BC, you’re doping your system (and then the environment) with all these hormones and chemicals non-stop for years daily… when in reality, your fertility window is around 5 days (the egg can live for 2 and sperm for 5). If your method fails at all, it will only fail during that week. Not the other 3 your altering your bodies natural function.

 

Post # 22
Member
1498 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I just went to my doctor about this.  He told me the loss of sex drive is because the pill causes your body to produce less testosterone.  A VERY common side effect with BC pills across the board.  He perscribed me a topical testosterone creame, and it’s been a little over a week and I am suddenly having the same urges to have sex like I used to.  It’s AMAZING!

Post # 23
Member
4122 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

FutureMrsZapper – There’s a ton of threads on here about FAM. Just use the search widget in the upper right hand corner of the page to search for “STM” or “FAM” or “NFP” which are all 100% natural methods of preventing pregnancy. Check out the book I mentioned above in my first post. Congrats on choosing a healthier method! 

Another thing not mentioned, is that a lot of women actually discover health issues more quickly by using a FAM vs BC. If you run into an issue, you also have the data to show your Dr. Once you are ready to begin a family, you also know exactly when to do so :-0 i.e. (tmi) 3 days ago would have been prime baby making ๐Ÿ˜‰ Sure enough, the next day my temp confirmed that I had ovulated…. I love that I know that about my body! For years and years, I got confused by the cyclical changes… I thought certain weeks something was wrong… Now, I know exactly what every little symptom means… and know when I’m starting my period. Now I take midol before it begins. I haven’t had cramps or discomfort in 3 months! 

Post # 24
Member
319 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@KLP2010 Thank you for the info. I will look further into this ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 25
Member
545 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Yeah.. BC is terrible. I read somewhere that when you are on BC that your sense of smell decreases, so you are less likeley to be attracted to the pheromones of your SO. I am not sure if it true but it makes sense to me. I am not on BC but we use condoms and I dont miss it one bit.

Post # 26
Member
330 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

monalisa670- I am also on Loestrin24…I have endometriosis and they wanted to put me on the lowest estrogen hormone and they wanted to stop my periods, so i completely skip the sugar pills every month and just go to the next pack….and i totally agree, i lost my libido..bad! like im never in the mood for it an im 22…it sucks..no BC works for me or my cramps, ive been on 6 differnt kinds, so we’re kind of at a stand still right now and im still on loestrin24….this scared me at first because i thought i was just not interested in my fiance but apparently its not me!! yay!!

Post # 27
Member
10849 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m so glad this is up here. I honestly broke down crying in the middle of doing the deed about a month ago because I felt so bad that I just wasn’t that into it but was doing it to make Fiance happy. I’m totally with you KLP, when we were first together, it was like all new relationships, but as time as worn on, I can go weeks with nothing. When we’re in the midst I sometimes stop and think “ooooohhhh yaaaaa, I remember now, this is fun!”, but I rarely initiate and when Fiance does want to….. I sort of sigh and try to work myself into it. It’s the worst feeling in the world.

Does anyone know if you change from BC to an IUD if there’s a period of time that you should use a back up method? I’m wondering if it’s worth changing over right after we come back from our Honeymoon… I would like to do it before, but I don’t want to run the risk of getting my period on our wedding or Honeymoon. At least with BC pills I can control that. Thoughts?

Post # 29
Member
2414 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I have the same problem. I’m on Ortho Cyclen and it’s killed my sex drive. I feel bad as my SO has been supportive and understanding, with moments of absolute frusteration! However, I am back in school and don’t want to change to another method that may not be as successful.

Post # 30
Member
10849 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@MadiLove918: Ummm not a clue. It’s just something I’m thinking about. I haven’t started researching yet really except hearing good things about IUDs. Any recommendations?

Post # 31
Member
5496 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

@bakerella Sounds just like me on and OFF the pill. I know most people say that after stopping the pill, the sex drive came back quickly. Well, I’m obviously in the minority because I’ve been off it about 2 1/2 months and still no sex drive. Soo frustrating….I hope the IUD works for you. And I hope my sex drive comes back someday and soon. I feel bad for my hubby because he’s a little frustrated and I have to “force” myself to be in the mood most times.  

The topic ‘Pill crushing the sex drive?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors