Post # 1
My first post here . . . I’m in need of some birth control advice.
My fiance and I are getting married in December. We both have pretty conservative and traditional families, and we’ve tried to be respectful of that. We think that they know that we have sex, but we’re not sure–it’s sort of a don’t ask, don’t tell policy. 🙂
We’re planning on starting nour family soon after the wedding–we’ve been together long enough that we’re ready for this step. In fact, we’d prefer to be pregnant already, but we know it would upset our families if I was a mommy or visibly pregnant at my wedding, so babymaking is on hold for another year.
I’ve been on the pill for quite some time, but for the most part we also use condoms (or occasionally pull-out) on top of that, largely out of concern for our families. But frankly we’re getting tired of the extra measures. We much prefer condomless sex, and to have my fiance ejaculate inside me rather than pulling out. We do this some, usually during my placebo week, but not nearly as often as we want to.
With this background information, my basic question is this: assuming I’m careful about taking my pills properly, how much risk of a pregnancy will we be running from now until around August or September if we rely just on the pill for my entire cycle–not just the placebo week–with no codoms or pull-out? How many couples here use just the pill, and have you ever had a scare? (keeping in mind that the only downside would be upsetting our families.)
Post # 3
I use the Nuvaring now, but had been on the pill for years, and that was the only form of birth control I used. The pill is over 99% effective if taken correctly, so there is a small chance you could become pregnant. I never had a problem though.
Post # 4
We’ve used the pill for over two years without any other protection and have never had a scare. If you take it at the same time every day, and don’t skip any days, then it’s something like 99% effective, so you should be fine!
Post # 5
I wouldn’t worry to much. From my experience i have been on the pill since i was 15. Me and my Fiance have been together 4 years and do not use any other precautions and he ejaculates in me often. My only advice would be make sure you do not miss any of the pills and if you do i would use a second method of birth control beacause, in the past when i was 19 i missed 2 pills in a row. I took 3 the next day to catch up but, i ended up pregant. But, we had a miscarriage. Other than that i have never had a problem with the pill except my own fault for missing them.
Post # 6
I’ve been on the pill for 4 years and never had a scare. Personally, I think you will be fine… but it is not 100% effective so there will always be exceptions.
Post # 7
Most pills are 99% effective. I wouldn’t worry too much about it. Lots of people only use the pill as their only form of birth control.
Post # 8
Like PP’s said, 99% effective if used correctly. Thats not to say it can’t happen, thus the 1% fail rate. I’ve used it for 17 years without any scares. Just remember to take it around the same time everyday, don’t skip a pill, and be careful of other drugs like antibiotics or laxatives that may interfere with the effectiveness of the pill. If I ever find myself spotting randomly throughout the month, I assume something may have gone wrong and use a backup method.
Post # 9
I was on the pill for 9 years without a backup method, and never had a scare. It’s not 100% effective (but only abstinence is) and I’m sure we all know someone who’s gotten pregnant on the pill, but to echo PPs, if you take it at the same time every day, and don’t miss a day, it’s around 99% effective.
Post # 10
@meliss: That’s a good point, use a backup if you’re on antibiotics, and check with your pharmacist if you’re taking any other drugs. I had an alarm that went off on my phone every day during lunch to remind me to take it.
Post # 11
I’ve been taking the pill for 10 years, and never had a scare. We’re always careful to back up with condoms for a month if I ever miss a pill or am on antibiotics.
Post # 12
Perhaps talking to your OBGYN will make you feel better? But you should be very fine. I’ve been on birth control for 11 years and haven’t used a condom since I met my husband (8 years) and I’ve never been worried or had a scare. There are exceptions to every rule and a few outliers of people getting pregnant on birth control – but it’s very rare. You can proceed with cionfidence!!
Post # 13
At least 1 in 100 women get pregnant on the pill every year. I was one of them – and I took it perfectly. Just be prepared for what may happen if you are one of the unlucky ones. We use a backup method 100% of the time now.
Post # 14
I took them for 15 years (without ever using a backup method) and never had any scares. But it’s not 100%. You’ll also want to still use a backup method if you take certain meds (like some antibiotics) that decrease the pill’s effectiveness.