(Closed) Pillow talk with Mr Podo….bridal shoes!!!

posted 10 years ago in Shoes
Post # 3
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2292 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Um, yes, it would be wrong.  $500 is a lot of money.  Fiance and I will be making over $300k annually, together, and $500 is still a lot of money to us.  You should probably have some agreement about either how much money each of you has to spend each month on anything you want, or at what dollar level you need to agree on a purchase.  If you get $300 every month as "your money," and you want to go two months without lattes and manicures to get your Manolos, that’s fair.  Same for him – you don’t want him going out and ordering a new $500 putter, after you just told him you think it’s too much money, do you?  Especially if he pays out of the joint account, and later that month your debit card won’t go through at Safeway when you have a cart full of groceries…  Compromise and teamwork – and if you want to spend anything you want on shoes, whenever you feel like it, give the ring back and get your own apartment!

Post # 4
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1238 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

The photos may include your shoes, but not the bottoms and not the label.  Find a pair of shoes that are reasonably priced that you love.  No one looks at the pictures and says — "aren’t those shoes lovely, oh, but they are not Choo’s, what was that bride thinking?"

Post # 5
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375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I agree with both suzanno and calioteach. It seems like it would be a bad idea to break trust by spending such a sum when you were asked not to. And, no one really is going to pay attention to the shoes. It’s a great idea to look for a style you like in a similar shoe, or to maybe even borrow a cute pair from a friend who has name brand shoes if that it what you want. You could kill two birds with one stone-killer shoes and something borrowed:)

Post # 6
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Newbee

What about borrowing them from a service?  Try http://www.luckyyoushoes.com

They have several of the bigger names and they are running a special until the end of June so it is only $50 to borrow them.  It looks like they are relatively new so the selection isn’t great but it might be worth a shot! 

Post # 7
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2030 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Say you do get the shoes, and it starts a huge fight, and then you get your dream wedding shoe photo. Do you really want that photo reminding you of your biggest wedding fight?

Post # 8
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1020 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

these ladies have all made fantastic points.

 also, as far as dying them later… really? i somehow the expensive, designer feel would be lost somehow if you’d dyed them. 

Post # 9
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471 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

ITA with all the commenters above. They brought up really great points.

Post # 10
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5399 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Aww man, as soon as I read "So….is it wrong of me to go ahead and buy them??"  I was like DON’T DO IT!  A marriage should not be about just going out and getting something just because you want it…especially when it is that expensive.  A good marriage needs to have good communication and to me that’s just not how I think you should start out your marriage together, is it really worth a pair of shoes?  There are plenty of nice shoes out there and I guarantee you will be able to find a cheaper pair that looks very similar.  Maybe post a picture on here and see if anyone can help you find similar shoes.

Post # 12
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31 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2008

Hey MissPodo, don’t feel bad. It’s really hard to not get caught up in the whole designer shoe thing… I’m guilty of it myself! I give myself a few moments to gush and then tell myself that although those all those photos of Louboutins are lovely (and swarovski tiaras… and customized aisle runners… and ginormous centrepieces… and cathedral length veils), what I’ll remember of that day is not what brand my shoes were, but how I danced in them ’till all hours in the morning with all my favoritest people in the world!

Post # 14
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161 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

hmm.. this thread is a very good topic.  I’ve never felt the need to ask my fiance if I could buy shoes.  I work, so I feel like I have the right to buy whatever shoes I want.  Our finances are not linked now, but we will definitely discuss major purchases once we are married, but I gotta say, I didn’t think twice about my wedding manolos.  (which were on sale  … are gold, so no just wedding shoes).

 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

oh and PS MissPodo, good luck finding shoes that you LOVE, regardless of the tag 🙂

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