- 5 years ago
- Wedding: February 2014
Summary: Winter Friday wedding, 150 mostly local guests – mostly friends our age, his large family/my small family, an afternoon ceremony with evening reception (yes we had a gap, it’s cool here!). I planned this day myself right down the tiny details and had a 15 minute schedule spreadsheet laid out for everyone, which went almost perfectly.
In the weeks before our wedding, our city was in a huge cold snap – I’m talking -20F. But it warmed up 2 days before our wedding and was a perfect calm 35-40F on the day. It cooled right back down as soon as we left for our honeymoon though, so we got REALLY lucky to have the only nice days in a month land on our wedding day.
Our photographer (Anna Michalska) was amazing and I highly, highly recommend her. We loved our engagement pictures so we had really high expectations for our wedding pictures, and she still managed to exceed them! (I’ve blurred for privacy though)
Our limo arrived to take us to the ceremony and then something crazy happened while we were driving … I got a text from a limo driver saying he was outside MY parents’ house, which is nowhere near my in-laws’ house. I kind of freaked out because I assumed this was the guys’ limo driver, but then my fiancé texted me to say he was in his limo. So who WAS this other guy? As it turns out… he was from another limo company that I had booked early in the planning process but then cancelled when I found a better deal. I guess their system really sucks because not only had I cancelled, but we had had no contact for almost a year, no confirmation the week of, and they had no payment information from me, but the guy still showed up. So I told him that he was mistaken because I had cancelled months and months ago, and this was the response I got… I showed everyone the hilarious text history!
About 10 minutes before the ceremony started, someone told me the shuttle bus we had hired to bring guests who didn’t want to drive into downtown hadn’t yet arrived (and I had planned for lots of buffer time). Our flower girl and ringbearer were on it so we had to wait for them no matter what. Because of a stabbing that morning, police had closed a bunch of roads and then the bus driver got lost trying to detour. They finally arrived, we got the kids ready and were only about 5 minutes late starting the ceremony.
I had planned for the parents to walk into something different, but our friend with the music control just started playing the bridesmaids/my song (which I had timed PERFECTLY for us to walk to). I panicked for half a second and then said to everyone “fuck it, we’ll wing it!” and herded my in-laws, mom & Future Brother-In-Law out, then bridesmaids, then kids, then me and my dad. I sent everyone out quicker and closer together than we had planned but it worked out because they walked faster than rehearsal anyway.
The ceremony was short and sweet, I think it was literally 8 minutes long. I almost wonder if the officiant skipped a page or something! The venue had set the chairs up wrong and hadn’t roped things off properly to keep the public out of sight for pictures, and the officiant wasn’t holding the microphone up so nobody could hear anything. I didn’t even notice at the time but my family told me about the sound after and I can tell the setup was wrong from some of the pictures. Oh well.
After the ceremony we hid and waited for guests to clear out before moving around the gardens for more pictures.
Then we took a big limo with all of the wedding party and our parents to the reception. My timeline was so accurate and I had accounted for rush hour traffic, so we got to the venue well ahead of guests like I had planned. We freshened up, took some reception venue pics and then greeted everyone as they came in. We hadn’t really planned to be stuck at the door all cocktail hour (we wanted to mingle), but that’s how it worked out because people kept trickling in and there was a line because everyone wanted to hug us and take a picture with us before they came in. So it was an unplanned receiving line!
Apparently cocktail hour food was great, but we were stuck at the door until it was almost over. Dinner was delicious though! We managed to eat all three courses, sit and listen to speeches while we ate AND go around to each of the 20 tables in between courses. That’s efficiency! (I also had two slices of cake later!)
I had a “sippy cup” for my drinks at the reception because I’m awful at spilling things on myself. I had vodka slime in there all night long and we also did a TON of shots with our guests. Even my parents were doing shots with my friends! The rest of the night was a blur of dancing, photobooth bombing everyone, jumping in the snow on the deck outside when I got too hot dancing, and bathroom trips! Luckily I managed these all by myself in the handicap stall because I had practiced the backwards-on-the-toilet trick. These bathroom breaks were my only real breaks alone all night so I’m glad I could do it myself. My bustle ripped out once, we pinned it, and then that ripped too so by about 11pm I was just holding the train up by the hanger loop and using it as a prop for my awesome dance moves.
We stayed right until the end with about 30 other people and my parents. My dad was soooo drunk and he was having a blast dancing with us. Then our limo came to take us home, we stripped off our outfits at the front door and took a shower before falling into bed. But it was AWESOME. I was totally fine (besides being incredibly tired) the next day, but my husband was hung over and my dad threw up haha. We’ve had so many people tell us since what an awesome party it was. It really was the best day ever!