(Closed) Pinterest ruining wedding

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Yes. I also think almost nothing is “unique” anymore because of pinterest. Although, it is comforting that most of the guests will have no idea that certain things are so trendy right now or that something was supposed to turn out one way but didn’t.

Wedding planning is stressful enough without all that other crap on the internet lol.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think I felt that way for a little bit. Like I felt like I had to live up to this “vision” but now I kind of look at some of the things on Pinterest and think “that’s stupid and pointless” because its not us. Idk, I guess I just got tired of making things just so that there could be a picture of these things I made. If it’s not meaningful and doesn’t serve a real purpose, then I don’t want it at the wedding.

 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Dont compare your wedding to Pinterest or anything else!!! Make the wedding that YOU want… not what everyone else is doing!

Though I am an avid “pinner”, I believe that Pinterest is unhealthy.  It gives us an unrealistic vision of how things should look – when honestly, those things are obtainable for 99% of people.  (Kind of like models being super skinny – its just not how things actually are for most people.)

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Yeah, totally.  I have a rustic / casual aesthetic anyway, so I love all the stuff on Pinterest.  But i feel like A) who has time and money to put THAT much attention into all the little tiny decor details?! and B) now the stuff I’ve always loved (mason jars, wildflowers, etc) are all “popular”.  

But in the end, all of our weddings will be joyful, beautiful celebrations with the people we most care about.  So that’s what really matters.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I wouldn’t worry about Pinterest making your wedding not unique. Honestly, the only other people that will think it’s cliched will be other brides, and not everyone uses Pinterest. If they do, they may not use it extensively. We incorporated a few things that are common on Pinterest, but people at our wedding couldn’t stop exclaiming about how cool/unique/offbeat it was. Conversely, the guests don’t really appreciate all the DIY details (except maybe other brides that are on Pinterest) so don’t feel bad you didn’t slave over everything yourself.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@sarg88:  Pinterest is hardly realistic for ANYTHING… especially weddings. All the girls on there are perfectly thin in beautiful clothes. Homes are immaculate and huge. Recipes look better than they actually are (mind you, I have found a few keeper recipes on there). It’s like looking at the ideal of everything.

It’s inspiration… not reality. I bet the majority of amazing wedding photos weren’t DIY… they’re created by professionals and then photographed by professionals.

Like PP said, not many people at your wedding will realize you have trendy items or they didn’t quite turn out as they should on PI. It’s about the sentiment of the day, not about creating 5,000 perfect DIY rainbow flowers or whatever lol.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009 - Mountain Meadow/Mansion

I got married before Pinterest; it was honestly the same thing “back then” (in 2009); I got suckered into charter buses, a chocolate fountain, a gobo(special lighting with our monogram), chivari chairs, a designer gown etc). The truth is, you will always see things you think you should have/want/are way overpriced, but at the end of the day, what matters is that you are getting married (!!!) and that your day reflects you and your husband. Looking back, I could have spent less and have been just as happy.

Post # 10
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Busy bee

It’s just an online version of what’s in the wedding magazines, really.

In all honesty, I’ve found Pinterest to be amazing. Not because I want to create something identical to what I see on there, but it’s given me ideas that I would never have come across otherwise.

I don’t care if other people are doing the same, or if other people are doing it better. I guess I just like what I see and use it if I can 🙂

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Agree with sheepandbear:  

Pinterest is great for INSPIRATION

But it is not the be all to end all… (I think too many Brides get drawn in by that)

What you really have to determine is WHAT KIND OF WEDDING do you and your Fiance want

Be selective… find the venue you love, the dress you love, the food you love… and only then ask yourselves WHAT makes this Wedding about us…

WHO are we, WHAT is our style…

WHAT makes us unique

Chances are you’ll find your inspiration in a more fluid natural way…

Examples…

My original vision was a Beach Wedding with Mr TTR

So as I was planning our Reception vision, I was inspired by the pictures I saw of things that translated that beachy feel…

Whites, Blues, Sea Glass Green, Soft Sandy Browns

Lol… as life would have it our Wedding Elopement plans took a change… altho we were still being married on a Beach as planned… we now had 5 full weeks of vacation

And were planning out an Amazing Pre-Wedding Road Trip / Destination Wedding / Caribbean Honeymoon, that would see us travel thru 1 Province, 14 States, and 8 Countries in 35 Days

This was truly US… and consequently sparked my theme… I went from a rather common Beach Theme to one driven by Travel

Browsing thru various websites for our Printed Invites (WBee – VistaPrint – Wedding Divas) and decor (WeddingStar) I found my inspiration and it all fell together from there.

Sure there was stuff I saw on line, that fit my vision… but some of it truly just came about because of our own Itinerary (mailing our Travel themed Invites from various stops along our route)

In the end, MY Wedding and Reception doesn’t look like everyone else’s… and Mr TTR and I are very very happy with that aspect.

Hope this helps,

 

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

yep you need to get off pinterest! It’s great and evil all wrapped into one!  So many vendors have told me that pinterest has been so many brides demise because they have unrealistic expectations that they cannot afford to pull off from pinterest.  For example – cakes!  My cake baker said that so many brides come in with awesome elaborate cake designs they want done and that the baker CAN do, however the brides don’t realize how much they cost and they can’t afford it – cue disappointment from unmet expectations.

Your wedding will be beautiful – stop comparing it to what you see on pinterest or SMP or anywhere else! Comparison is the thief of joy! 😉

To add – I think nowadays many brides (myself included) get caught up in wanting things that are totally unnecessary because they’ll be a cute photo op!  It’s easy to get sucked into that – you have to be conscious of it and know that’s what’s happening so you can prevent yourself from wasting time and money! (I almost bought a $150 ring bearer pillow for the photo opp – even though my ring bearer will not be carrying any rings! – I debated it for weeks before I said forget it, I can’t be buying things just for a photo!)

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Miss Jackrabbit:  + 1

 

The same people who are upset/jealous that their weddings aren’t like Pinterest are just the modern day version of brides that get upset that their weddings aren’t like their magazines. Or maybe even the fancier options that their vendors try to push at them that they can’t afford. 

Who cares if your wedding is blog/pin-worthy? Just enjoy it for what it is. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Your wedding won’t be like the stuff you see on Pinterest, because it will be uniquely about YOU, your new husband, your family, and your friends celebrating your union.  If we all compared every aspect of our lives (especially but not limited to our: weddings, wardrobe, food, bodies, and hair) to what people post on Pinterest, we would all be pretty miserable.  Like others have said, Pinterest is about ideas and inspiration, that’s it.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think that a lot of brides tend to get too wrapped up in Pinterest. Keep reminding yourself that it is just (or should just) be for ideas and inspiration!! PPs are exactly right. It is not your wedding planner. Maybe you should just take a mini-vacation from pinterest. In that time, take a step back and re-evaluate your wedding. Why are you disappointed? How can you improve? Don’t compare it to things on pinterest, but genuinely ask yourself if there is anything you can do to make it “better”. 

I bet you, once you take a realistic look at your wedding, you’ll love it. You should. You worked really hard on it!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@sarg88:  I definitely think it’s easy to get swept up in the whole Pinterest thing.  You start looking for a couple of specific things and before you know it BAM! you’ve started pinning pretty much everything you come across that looks remotely pretty or interesting.  (Or maybe that’s just me?)

I try to limit my Pinterest time, and that seems to help a little.  I’m also fairly picky, so even though I’ve been pinning what I consider to be a lot of things (in reality, I probably don’t pin nearly as much as a lot of people do), I scroll through tons and tons of wedding-related images because they just don’t stand out to me.

I agree with previous posters who said that it should be used as inspiration, though.  You’ll drive yourself crazy if you compare your venue to every venue on Pinterest, or feel like you’re a failure because you don’t have the time or energy to fold 1000 paper cranes.

I think my biggest worry regarding Pinterest at this point is that our wedding won’t reflect “us.”  After thinking about it, though, I’ve realized that my fiance and I are just taking looks that we really like and combining them with little details that people who know us well will appreciate. Our theme is essentially “Shit we like.”

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