(Closed) Pissed Off and Don't Know What to Do (not wedding related).

posted 5 years ago in Parenting
Post # 2
217 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

What do you think would have been the proper response? I don’t know what they could have done besides a letter — it’s probably not realistic to expect them to call every parent immediately during an emergency.

Post # 3
3682 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

What? Why would you complain that the school didn’t do something after you found out that they in fact did do what you wanted? 

Post # 4
525 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

No. They notified people already, so it won’t accomplish anything unless you want to suggest a different mechanism for letting families know (i.e., besides a letter). It’s awful though!

Post # 5
1169 posts
Bumble bee

Our schools have an automated alert system that goes out to the parents. One of the office staff leaves the message and then it is sent to the parents’ contact numbers. My husband and I get the message by text, phone call, and a call to the house phone. For instance, the other day there was a suspicious smell in the cafeteria. They evacuated the nearby classrooms and notified the fire department. Everything was fine and then they sent the kids back to class. They sent the alerts out to the parents about the incident in case any of the kids talked about it at the end of the day. I think it’s great how well they communicate with us.

Post # 6
6040 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State


randellleah:  I’m confused by this post. Are you the children’s parents? are you their grandparent? it says your oldest and youngest grandchildren? I don’t think the school did anything wrong. I think a letter being sent home is the proper response and if it wasn’t found until later that is the fault of whoever usually goes through the paperwork sent from the school daily.

Post # 7
8919 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

randellleah:  I know you’re scared and alarmed and I would be too. But when you say they should have sent an alert “during the incident” — is that really reasonable? Wouldn’t you rather they give full 100% attention to making sure the students are safe? At what point do you think they should have given this alert? While the incident is in progress, they need to be focused on ending the incident and keeping the kids safe. Also, while the incident is in progress they probably don’t know what exactly is going on. Do you think parents should get a call or text saying “there may or may not be a gun at your child’s school.” What benefit would that serve? What would you have done if they’d sent an alert? Driven to the school so that in addition to worrying about the students, the first responders also have to worry about a bunch of panicked parents? If they had determined that kids were in danger and the danger was ongoing, I could see them alerting parents to that. But they can’t “alert” parents every time there MIGHT be danger and by time they figure out there WAS a danger but it’s over now… what’s the point of trying to immediately alert everyone at that moment. Sending a letter home was the appropriate response. Something happened, they took care of it, they let the parents and guardians know about it. That seems appropriate. I think you’re responding to the fear and feeling of being out of control while your grandkids were (possibly) in danger. That’s understandable but not the school’s fault. Also though, I’m not sure how you “joke” during a conversation about a gun at school. If you were upset, you were upset. People shouldn’t joke or pretend they’re joking about serious stuff. Glad everyone was safe!

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