(Closed) pissed off

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@rlsh86: Yikes! I’d be upset too. It sounds like there are deeper issues here. Have you two thought about couples counseling?

Post # 4
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714 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Wow – that’s really messed up.  I’m sorry. 

I don’t want to upset you but I would encourage you to take a long, hard look at this guy.  This incident does not speak well of his character and trustworthiness at all. 

Best of luck to you. 

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@rlsh86: Fake as in? CZ? It wasn’t right of him to let you believe it was one thing while it was another.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

So you don’t want to wear one at all? I get why you are mad, he lied and you found out before he confessed. But you are married and he wants to buy you another ring, and now you won’t wear it. It’s a ring, it does not mean your marriage or relationship was built on a lie.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

How horrible!  I mean, he lied to you and he could have been upfront about it in the first place.  I also don’t buy this ‘the realy one’s getting sized’ junk.  A relationship is based on trust, so with pulling this crap – how disgusting.  He definitely needs to see the error in his ways and apologize big time. The next time there’s ring talk, you two should go together to pick one out.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Woah.

First of all, you have every reason to be upset.  I would be incredibly hurt as well and I think that your reasons for being upset are completely valid.  

I honestly second the PP that mentioned going to counselling and/or having a really serious talk about why he would think that it was okay for him to lie to you EVER and also why he would use this opportunity to “make things up to you” by making them worse by lying.  To be honest, he sounds really disingenuous and I would be really concerned about what else he could be lying about.  

Other then this (and your wedding, where you said he behaved like an ass) do you guys have a good relationship? 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

Wow…it sounds like he keeps trying to make things up to you but keeps fumbling over his own lies. Counseling would defintiely be something that you guys would benefit from.

Post # 10
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689 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

He was wrong to to that. You reasons for being upset are valid! I would be pissed too! You two need to talk some things. I agree with the OP about maybe seeking some couples therapy.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Well it’s certainly not a good sign that he lied about it. Perhaps he is embaressed to admit her couldn’t afford a real one? Beyond the ring issue, it sounds like there is more trouble brewing than just this issue. Do you guys have an otherwise happy relationship?

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I would be completely furious, too. 

The repeated lying and rationalizing are big red flags, in my opinion.

Why did you guys skip the formal wedding the first go-round?

Post # 13
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Helper bee

I think you have every reason to be upset, and I think in your shoes it would make me question this guy all together. Best of luck.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Thats prety awful. I would be shocked if there is a “real” ring coming…i mean if there was  he: 1 – could have waited and gave you that or 2: told you when he was giving you a fake one that it was fake and a real one was on the way

Either way you have every right to be upset. As PP posters have mentioned here, maybe you ugys need some couples counselling?

Also, why was he being an ass they day you guys did the court wedding? and why did you skip out on a formal wedding in the first place?

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Soooo…..you married him even though you were furious with each other that day?

And then he lied to you about the ring afterward?

I think you guys have some deep issues you need to work through.

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