posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
3866 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@MrsTimmy: actually, I’d just say “here’s your dress.  if you don’t get it, you don’t get to be a bm” and let ’em be. other than that… i’ve got nothing 🙁

sorry you’ve gotta deal with this!!!  (((((HUGS)))))

Post # 4
105 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Yuck.  Sorry your BMs are being so bratty.  How about you pick something out, and if she doesn’t like it, then make her pick something out herself.

If she doesn’t pick out something herself by a certain time then she will have to go with your pick or take a hike.  It’s a dress.  If she feels she can’t wear it again she can donate it or consign it.

I wonder why there are so many bratty BMs out there.  It’s easy to say yes to being a Bridesmaid or Best Man, but you have to fulfill the role.  If you can’t do it or know that you may possibly be unreliable – just say no and save the drama.

I really hope things work out. ((HUGS)) Good luck!

P.S.  Not that the one planning on getting pregnant is being bratty, but really if she knew she was going to try to get pregnant she should have thought about whether or not she wanted to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man when you asked.  But it could still work out anyway if you don’t mind her being pregnant in the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress.

Post # 6
7300 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m with Ryna. Get rid of the drama and just pick the dresses yourself. If they don’t like them then say that you gave them plenty of time to send you some feedback and they didn’t want to. 

However, you could wait a little. You can still pick a color and a scheme without having bridesmaid dresses picked out so early. You are more than a year out and bridesmaid dresses don’t take too long to get in. 

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