(Closed) Pity Party: Everyone’s planning marriages before mine

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

its good to rant…and just think….you had 2 years to plan your wedding… so yours is going to kick thier wedding ass!!!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Mrs.LilyLunaLove: DATE TWIN!  It’s ok to rant. Everyone has those moments so no negative comments here πŸ™‚ Just remember that you chose your wedding date for a particular reason. That date is special to you and your Fiance. Try not to focus on the other couples (easier said than done) and how long they have been together. Try to look at it in a positive light like….. you can get some ideas from their weddings on what to do and what not to do :-). Just enjoy this time because it comes and go soooo fast. My little cousin/godsister just got engaged and she is getting married next year as well. Before I found out her date the only thing that I was hoping was that it wasn’t on the same day… She chose October 13 which is a few months after mines and I told her if she has any questions or need help to just let me know. It’s enough love to spread around :). You will be ok…. 7-7-12 will be here before you know it… we are almost at the one year mark!!!! woohoo!!!!

I also got engaged in 2010 (September) and by choosing a wedding date over a year out, I knew that I was running a risk of other people getting engaged and possibly getting married before me. A lot of people only have a one year engagement (some shorter)….so I knew that it could/ was going to happen…. Enjoy planning your wedding and good luck to you!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

i AM soooooo IN THE SAME position. I try my best not to be bothered by  it, but we are only human.  ((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))

Post # 6
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Helper bee

GIRL!!!  Don’t you even worry about it!  We will be the last ones to get married, and I am THRILLED about that!!  We have a girl in our group of friends that just HAD to get married before everyone else (all our friends got engaged around the same time… as in like within 4 months of each other, and this is like 8 couples or more I’m talking about).  She is now planning a wedding in 6 months, and while it will be beautiful, all the other girls are now going to try to “one up” her (ridiculous, I know, but this girl is a bridezilla to the max, so all her stuff is gonna be crazy).  So, since she just had to get married first (same situation, they were dating for 6 years, and wanted to do it before the other people could who had been dating less), the other girls will be trying to make theirs better than hers.  Totally not a situation I’m interested in. 

Look at it my way: We will be getting married a good 6-9 months after the last of our friends get married.  By that time, everyone will have mostly forgotten about the other people’s weddings, and YOUR wedding will be center stage.  You won’t be sharing with all those other couples who are getting married within a few months of each other.  Plus, you’ll be able to get some GREAT ideas about what works and what doesn’t work from those other weddings.  Let them be the guinea pigs, and you’ll just blow everyone out of the water πŸ™‚

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

You know what they say, you save the best for last!

Post # 8
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Newbee

No worries!! Same happended here!! My Fiance and I have been together 8.5 years. Engaged on 12/2/10 and aregetting married 8/6/11…an 8 month engagement. Already 2 of my friends have gotten engaged…AND plan to marry BEFORE me! Actually one already did it at the mayors office!! I at first felt like everyone was trying t o”one up” me. But now, I don’t care. This time is to oprecious for me to be worrying about that stuff. Everyone has their time and spotlight and ours will be in August. No need to fret about who’s getting married first. Not worth it!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Oh girl, count me in!  We are getting married in October and will have been engaged for 22 months, and dating for 7 years on the day we get married…  We know people who have met, gotten engaged/married/bought houses and had kids in less time than we have been together.  I go through phases where this bothers me and it doesnt bother me.  We picked our date based off our work schedules and financial reasons.  But I am glad to hear I am not alone!  a little more than three months left to go for me!!!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

πŸ™‚  Cheers!

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Something like this happened to me too, with three friends’ weddings happening before ours.  Oh well, I try not to look at it as a competition.  Unless they’re planning to have their wedding at the exact venue and have everything exactly like yours, everyone’s wedding will be unique and different.  Also, having a latter wedding date will give you more time to plan and save up for all those wedding expenses.  

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m in the same boat. I was engaged november 7th and won’t be getting married until August 4th 2012. I always wanted an August wedding but didn’t want to be rushed planning for this year. We also don’t have the funds and wanted the time to save up. The first couple of months we were engaged I would get a twinge of jealousy when a friend would get engaged and announce their date that was before ours…but now I just realize that it’s silly…that ours will be here before you know it, and that I have that much more time to look forward to it!

Just remember, when it’s over, it’s over. I talked to a friend last week who wishes she was in my shoes, because she misses planning for a wedding (she was married last August). Another perks of having a long engagement is that you can do everying in good time and not be stressed about planning. I love being engaged! I love to be able to enjoy the idea of being engaged. πŸ™‚ , also … all of those other weddings will give you ideas for your big day πŸ™‚ I’m really glad I read this because it makes me feel glad that I’m not the only one who felt this way.

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