(Closed) Pity Party!!! Long vent

posted 11 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
256 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Sorry to hear what you’re dealing with. It can be discouraging when you are so excited about something and others around you don’t seem to be.

You said you can be brutally honest with your mom and now might be one of those times that calls for it. The conversation that takes place doesn’t have to be an argument. I would call her or meet with her if you feel like making the drive and would explain to her how you feel.

You could start by saying “Mom, I am very excited for my wedding and looking forward to the big day. But I don’t feel that you are as excited as I am or necessarily happy for me. Because of this, I feel like a part of me is holding back on enjoying the whole planning process. How do you feel about this whole situation?” Let her take the time to express how she feels to you.

You may find that you two aren’t exactly on the same page but that it might be fixable. Good Luck!

Post # 4
406 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yes Angela- as a Mom, I just don’t get it- and it makes me sad for y’all.  I am probably TOO excited about everything, but wow- this is what I raised my children for- to find a lifemate and partner that they can build a life with and be happy.  That’s what all the work, tears, education and tribulation have been geared towards.  Happiness with the person of their choice.  It’s a wonderful thing-  I think maybe some ladies are not so excited about marriage because they may have had some bad experiences.  Our generation too were fairly free spirits and we do think differently.  I hope for your sake, that she catches the spirit of the wedding.  Best wishes-

Post # 6
142 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

She sounds really selfish. I am going through the same thing. I am trying to just concentrate on the positive people in my life. 

Good luck! Don’t let her pull you down.

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