Post # 1
this is just a general vent post/ feeling crappy so forgive me in advance. My Maid/Matron of Honor invited 9 girls to my bachlorette party in vegas nect weekend. out of those girls, only 2 are coming. My Maid/Matron of Honor and another Bridesmaid or Best Man and me. that’s it. My matron of honor had a death in the family and has a funeral that weekend, so i completely understand her not being able to make it. My fiance has graciously gifted us our hotel room (he has friends in vegas) so hotel cost isnt an issue and his friend can get us in free to all the clubs we want to go to and the girls knew of this. each girl that was invited declined for a dumb reason. I wont go into details of each girls, but seriously it’s so saddening to me. None of my girls have careers or jobs that require taking vaction time. i work with almost all of them and its a request a day off and you get it situation. Neither do they lack the funds to go (i know them well enough to know their financial situations). its was just a lack of effort and i feel so crappy. My Maid/Matron of Honor called me yesterday to tell me and i was seriously holding back tears the whole time while i tried to sound as if it was ok. I know i will have a great time with my Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man but i’m just feeling rejected and sad :/
Post # 3
@eeestrad: I’m so sorry this is happening to you :(. It’s so hard when your friends don’t come through for you, even at times that are meant to be fun. I am having a similar problem with some of my friends (they couldn’t bother to even answer the invite to my local bridal shower?) . At least you won’t have downers during your weekend in Vegas, and a lot of thigns are easier when just a few people. It sucks that your friends aren’t going to be there, but you are going to have a blast with your Maid/Matron of Honor and BM!
Post # 4
That really sucks :(. I’m so sorry.
On the plus side, I think a group of three girls is the perfect size for Vegas. And it’s so nice of your fiance to foot the bill for the hotel room, too.
You’re going to have a blast. I would do it up and go all out with the three you have. You only live once and these girls really came through for you!
Post # 5
@eeestrad: I know you must be sad, I know I would be. But, this is YOUR bachelorette party! Maybe this is a “find out who your friends are” situation. Go and have an absolute BLAST (I know you will!) And come back with amazing “hangover-like” stories for them to ALL be jealous!!! =))
Post # 6
Sorry your friends have disappointed you. 3 people is just right to have a good time, though!
For a different perspective, I make plenty of money, but I like to choose what I spend it on, and I would never go to Vegas for a bach party for anyone. I could use plane ticket money for a new oven. Maybe your friends are just lame, but you probably don’t really know their motivation.
Post # 7
It’s better to have the ones there who WANT to be there. Plus, I agree with PPs, 3 is a really good-sized group–you will have less trouble getting in anywhere and you won’t lose anyone! Have fun!!!
Post # 8
@eeestrad: Ugh, that’s a shame 7 of them will not be there in Vegas with you. I agree with PP that perhaps this is one of those “who are your real friends” moments. Also, could it be that those girls are uncomfortable with the club scene or the Vegas stigma? Maybe their bf’s or husbands aren’t into the idea of their gals being gone to Vegas for the weekend? Whatever the reason, concentrate on the 2 that are going with you. The 3 of you will have a fabulous time together. Enjoy every moment of it!
I had a very similar situation in that only 2 gals went with me to my bachelorette trip to Vegas. The other friends that stayed at home couldn’t afford it, etc. and I understood. Honestly though, the two gals were plenty to deal with and in the end, I would have preferred to have just gone with one of them because the other was such a pain in the neck!
Make the most of your trip. Perhaps those that can’t make your bachelorette can make your bridal shower?
Post # 9
Awww that kinda sucks. On the bright side, at least you don’t have to share 1-2 bathrooms with a bunch of other girls! 😉 We shared one bathroom between six girls at my bachelorette party, and though everything went fine, it was definitely interesting!
Post # 10
thanks for all your kind words ladies! My Maid/Matron of Honor has planned a bridal lunchon for the week before the wedding so that the ladies that can’t make the bachlorette party can celebrate too. My Maid/Matron of Honor is really bending over backwards for me to make sure i enjoy this time. i know Vegas will be awesome and i’ll really enjoy myself.
Post # 11
I am sure you will have a good time.There is nothing worse than going out with people that attend an affair out of obligation. Go have fun with your friends that are excited about going.