Post # 1
Well Mr. S and I have a great love story… To sum it up quickly though we were introduced by our parents… His dad and my mom… A very unlikely situation came up and it just happened…
Guess what? We felt as if we’d loved each other almost in another life and have continued… We did not feel as if we simply “fell in love”…
Long story short… Both our father’s are Pastors of their own respective churches.
For all you PK’s out there how did you handle the ceremony? How big was your guest list? How unique or different did you want things to be? Culturally we are west indian, and want things to be as different as possible from the typical weddings we’ve attended.
We also don’t want either parent performing the ceremony…. We want another pastor and an evangelist to perform everything…
How did you make everyone feel the love and the beauty of the ceremony? How can we make everything reflect us for those that don’t know us ask well?
Post # 3
That’s a neat love story. I’m not a PK so I can’t help there, but do you have any idea what parts you def want? Like you want to get married in a church – do you want the ceremony to be different than usual church services, do you have specially talented musical friends, or any great singers from the church? Do you want to have an outdoor/indoor ceremony or what are some of the things you know you want and maybe people can help you go from there.
Post # 4
totally a pk and a grandkid of a pk… and um yeah i don’t want to have a wedding in a church (completely different, right?!) i am one of the rebellious ones, however do you live in your hometown where the church is? if so i think it would be best to give each set of parents x amount of guests to invite if they are hosting the wedding and perhaps have a cake and punch reception for the church so they can share in everything with you and then have a private reception for the actual invited guests….
So say x and y are getting married on blah day and the entire church is invited. there will be cake and punch refreshments in the dining hall for those that will like to attend and then have your true reception starting an hour or two after that for your guests… HTH!
Post # 5
whats a PK??? my first thoughts as a Farscape fan was PeaceKeeper.. im such a geek sometimes
Post # 6
@eloping — PKs are Pastor’s Kids. Children of pastors.
I don’t really know what to tell you. All of the weddings I’ve been to where either the bride or groom was a PK the pastor led the ceremony. I actually did attend a ceremony where the bride and groom were both PKs and the dads co-led the ceremony.
Post # 7
My FH’s a PK. We’re having someone else do the ceremony since he didn’t want to do any of his kid’s ceremonies. The only thing I’m worried about is the church guest list for the reception. It’s hard b/c you’re friends with so many people, but his family is big too, so we already have all of those with my family (which is a so-so sized family).
Programs are probably a good thing to help people who don’t know you get to know you. You can put a little bit about yourselves in there & you two together.
Post # 8
I am totally a PK and my FI’s dad is in ministry (in a different form). We did not want a tyical large church ceremony, so our ceremony will be in a church that is an old stone chapel for a more initimate feel. Although my Dad has offered to perform the ceremony, I only want him to walk me down the aisle and then sit down. Besides, my Dad is a Baptist minister and if he performs the ceremony he might start preaching : ) (ha, ha). We don’t plan to light a unity candle and won’t give the traditional “honorary rose” to each other’s parents. I think we might incorporate a wine / chocolate ceremony – life is bitter and sweet.
We plan to read our own vows and maybe have the eldest member of each of our families (our grandmothers) say a short tribute. Then, at the end, when we walk down the aisle they will each hold a cord that we will walk through – symbolizing our new union.
What about incorporating some of your cultural traditions?
We can’t possibly invite all of our church members or the folks that his Dad has worked with through his ministry so we will have a small reception before or after the wedding at both churches to be sure to include everyone. We will either post our engagement shots or wedding photos to make sure that everyone feels like they played a part.
Post # 9
PK here and im NOT having my father officiate. i would much rather have him walk me down the aisle. but hes finding another pastor (since hes mine so he would have and my FH is catholic and most priests wont marry us cuz im baptist) for us.
Also FH and I are paying for the alcohol at the reception – my father doesnt drink. he doesnt mind if i do but i would never make him pay for it. Also i am not inviting anyone from the church. its not close to the church town, and my sister did that whole thing (she had two receptions!)
Post # 10
I won’t be able to invite all of my fathers and my FI’s fathers past and present members to the wedding…Right now my FI’s father is not pastoring any churchs but my father is pastoring 3 different churches at the moment…No, they are not huge churches but I know most of the members would come because they have seen me grow up and each of them are important to my father….This is why we have decided to stick with an extra small wedding with really close friends and family…..
My Fiance wants his father to officiate the ceremony but my father is a preacher too…I do not think my Fiance knows what type of dillema this puts me in because it would be special to my father to marry us…You see my father is not acutally my biological father but my grandfather…He is the only father I have known and I have always called him dad…His son is my biological father but let it be known from day one that he did not want to have anything to do with me, so my grandfather stepped up and he is my father…So, I will be his second daughter or first granddaughter to get married…lol..it complicated….
Post # 11
I’m a PK and my dad is NO WAY doing my ceremony- his job is being my dad that day!!
We’ve been offered loads of help from the older members of the congregation but were hoping for a smallish wedding, so now we have to decide if we take up their offers (flower arranging etc) but extend the guestlist or just stick to our initial, little wedding plan. My dad has 12 churches under him (he’s a methodist minister in a rural part of the UK) so that is potentially a LOT of wedding crashers!!
Post # 12
Im a pastors kid, my dad is a Baptist senior minister, but were having a non religious ceremony due to my FHs family being Jehoviahs witness and if we had it in a church they wouldnt come.
My dads walking me down the aisle, and my aunty is going to be our officiant, shes nearly qualified 🙂 so keeping it in the family
There is no way we could get away with a small wedding due to the congregation. 150 coming to the reception and expected to be 350 at the ceremony.